You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yup ive been doing it for 3 months and i haven't done the deadliftsbigwuz said:Does anybody else do this? I never lifted before this. Think it is an good program except deadlifts. I hate them lol
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I don't skimp on dead lifts if you are referring to me but I do want to add cardio because I'm bored on my off days and my diet is not the best.DanZy said:Why skimp on deadlifts? Man up and do them. Deads are by far my favourite lift. There's no need to add cardio to it, yes your cardiovascular stamina will increase but it'll have little more effect; especially considering that you're probably going to not put much effort into it.
Then fix your diet. Adding cardio because your diet is poor is like putting a bandaid over an infected wound, you're just covering it up.bigwuz said:I don't skimp on dead lifts if you are referring to me but I do want to add cardio because I'm bored on my off days and my diet is not the best.
well i gained around 10lbs of lean body mass , shed some fat(20lbs) and i'm stronger now,just the other day i moved a truckSayWhat said:And what do you mean with results? Muscle mass or strength?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.