"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Strike while the iron is hot

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How important is this? If her IL is extremely high does it matter when you make your move?

Recently got a girls number I see around campus a lot I can see it in her eyes her il is high. Texted her asked when shed be free she said after 8. I sent her a pic of my books and said I'm gonna be busy tonight so we'll do something some other time. I didn't think about this text before I sent it so I think I showed a little desperation.

Also does the fact that nothing is happening tonight mean her il will lower?

Don't give me the bs about being too invested because I'm posting. I know I know....

THIS BELONGS IN DJ FORUM. IF A MOD COULD MOVE IT I'D APPRECIATE THAT.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"nothing is going on tonight"

Try to make something happen. Especially if you're worried about her IL going down when nothing happens.

Anything can affect a person's IL. But most of the time it is important to do something rather than drag it out.

You also seem too invested...
 
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Hmmm...I'd say any text you make should be about a definitive date with a time and place. Don't even ask. Just say come with me to so-so and so place. Period.
 
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If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves.

If you need to study.. don't say sh!t.. just study. She isn't your mother. When 8 comes around she will either contact you or wonder why you flaked (hamster wheel :D )

Also.. SPIN PLATES.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey when are you free let's grab some coffee.

That my go to line.
 
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SamTheHobit said:
Hey when are you free let's grab some coffee.
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I'll edit this for ya: Hey when I'm free let's grab some coffee.

See the difference? Try it, seriously. Win/Win.

OP, on that note, nothing wrong with what you asked. You were asking her her available dates....to see if any of them matched up with your schedule. You didn't give anything away. Understand your hesitancy when she made it too easy for you. Sometimes it is that easy though. You played it cool, green flag for her. Next time, I'd say take that opportunity. Priorities are priorities but most women understand, eventually a man needs to be a man.
 
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PlayHer Man said:
If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves.

If you need to study.. don't say sh!t.. just study. She isn't your mother. When 8 comes around she will either contact you or wonder why you flaked (hamster wheel :D )

Also.. SPIN PLATES.
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When is it a good time to contact?, after you slept with her....
 
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_sideways_ said:
When is it a good time to contact?, after you slept with her....
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Only contact for logistics and after you've slept with her you can contact her a little more often 2/3 rule applies
 
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u gotta go str8 2 bone zone w all the hb8s u meet :eek: if u no what i meen ur gunna be a dawg in the sack :box: i got so many hb8 in my crib they r babes in the bed if u no what i meen :up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lili19771 said:
"nothing is going on tonight"

Try to make something happen. Especially if you're worried about her IL going down when nothing happens.

Anything can affect a person's IL. But most of the time it is important to do something rather than drag it out.

You also seem too invested...
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True.
 
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