"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Strike while the iron is hot

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How important is this? If her IL is extremely high does it matter when you make your move?

Recently got a girls number I see around campus a lot I can see it in her eyes her il is high. Texted her asked when shed be free she said after 8. I sent her a pic of my books and said I'm gonna be busy tonight so we'll do something some other time. I didn't think about this text before I sent it so I think I showed a little desperation.

Also does the fact that nothing is happening tonight mean her il will lower?

Don't give me the bs about being too invested because I'm posting. I know I know....

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"nothing is going on tonight"

Try to make something happen. Especially if you're worried about her IL going down when nothing happens.

Anything can affect a person's IL. But most of the time it is important to do something rather than drag it out.

You also seem too invested...
 
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Hmmm...I'd say any text you make should be about a definitive date with a time and place. Don't even ask. Just say come with me to so-so and so place. Period.
 
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If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves.

If you need to study.. don't say sh!t.. just study. She isn't your mother. When 8 comes around she will either contact you or wonder why you flaked (hamster wheel :D )

Also.. SPIN PLATES.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey when are you free let's grab some coffee.

That my go to line.
 
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SamTheHobit said:
Hey when are you free let's grab some coffee.
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I'll edit this for ya: Hey when I'm free let's grab some coffee.

See the difference? Try it, seriously. Win/Win.

OP, on that note, nothing wrong with what you asked. You were asking her her available dates....to see if any of them matched up with your schedule. You didn't give anything away. Understand your hesitancy when she made it too easy for you. Sometimes it is that easy though. You played it cool, green flag for her. Next time, I'd say take that opportunity. Priorities are priorities but most women understand, eventually a man needs to be a man.
 
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PlayHer Man said:
If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves.

If you need to study.. don't say sh!t.. just study. She isn't your mother. When 8 comes around she will either contact you or wonder why you flaked (hamster wheel :D )

Also.. SPIN PLATES.
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When is it a good time to contact?, after you slept with her....
 
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_sideways_ said:
When is it a good time to contact?, after you slept with her....
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Only contact for logistics and after you've slept with her you can contact her a little more often 2/3 rule applies
 
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u gotta go str8 2 bone zone w all the hb8s u meet :eek: if u no what i meen ur gunna be a dawg in the sack :box: i got so many hb8 in my crib they r babes in the bed if u no what i meen :up:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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lili19771 said:
"nothing is going on tonight"

Try to make something happen. Especially if you're worried about her IL going down when nothing happens.

Anything can affect a person's IL. But most of the time it is important to do something rather than drag it out.

You also seem too invested...
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True.
 
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