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So guys I had to restart my life a couple years ago ( I am 34). I changed career paths. I quit my job a few months ago and went back on the job hunt. I managed to get a series of jobs. I quit all but 2 of them out of 6. I have a job as an EMT- Basic that I love but doesn't pay much ( pays okay for me). I also have a job in a lab that pays ok but it is super stressful. Is it normal for most jobs to be overly stressful and should I feel guilty for quitting most of them? Would you guys agree with the following observations about the job market?

1.) Most jobs are stressful. There is no correlation between stress and prestige of the job. Fast food can be just as stressful as investment banking.

2.) Micromanagement is the cause of most stress. Having a boss breathing down your back is horrible. Even if the boss has the best intentions it still gets old being told what to do all the time.

The only job I like is private EMS and I can move up and get my medic in a year. I like EMS because of the autonomy. Its just you and your partner in the ambo. No boss.

I have a couple degrees and I feel guilty for doing something "simple". The truth is that I suck at most jobs. I even suck at fast food jobs. I am only good at a very small amount of jobs ( is this normal?) Parents are shaming me as usual. They say simple jobs are not prestigious. I think that simplicity is happiness even if the pay isn't extraordinary. Help me out y'all.
 
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So guys I had to restart my life a couple years ago ( I am 34). I changed career paths. I quit my job a few months ago and went back on the job hunt. I managed to get a series of jobs. I quit all but 2 of them out of 6. I have a job as an EMT- Basic that I love but doesn't pay much ( pays okay for me). I also have a job in a lab that pays ok but it is super stressful. Is it normal for most jobs to be overly stressful and should I feel guilty for quitting most of them? Would you guys agree with the following observations about the job market?

1.) Most jobs are stressful. There is no correlation between stress and prestige of the job. Fast food can be just as stressful as investment banking.

2.) Micromanagement is the cause of most stress. Having a boss breathing down your back is horrible. Even if the boss has the best intentions it still gets old being told what to do all the time.

The only job I like is private EMS and I can move up and get my medic in a year. I like EMS because of the autonomy. Its just you and your partner in the ambo. No boss.

I have a couple degrees and I feel guilty for doing something "simple". The truth is that I suck at most jobs. I even suck at fast food jobs. I am only good at a very small amount of jobs ( is this normal?) Parents are shaming me as usual. They say simple jobs are not prestigious. I think that simplicity is happiness even if the pay isn't extraordinary. Help me out y'all.
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Most jobs suck for one reason or another.

Working on an ambulance was exciting at times, but could be stressful due to long/odd hours and dealing with lousy Medicaid abusers. EMTs definitely have social status, though. Saving lives is pretty cool. And a lot of chicks dig a man in uniform.

A co-worker and I had an idea to start our own non-emergency transport service, basically shuttling old people to doctors appointments and the like, but we both eventually got out of the field.
 

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So guys I had to restart my life a couple years ago ( I am 34). I changed career paths. I quit my job a few months ago and went back on the job hunt. I managed to get a series of jobs. I quit all but 2 of them out of 6. I have a job as an EMT- Basic that I love but doesn't pay much ( pays okay for me). I also have a job in a lab that pays ok but it is super stressful. Is it normal for most jobs to be overly stressful and should I feel guilty for quitting most of them? Would you guys agree with the following observations about the job market?

1.) Most jobs are stressful. There is no correlation between stress and prestige of the job. Fast food can be just as stressful as investment banking.

2.) Micromanagement is the cause of most stress. Having a boss breathing down your back is horrible. Even if the boss has the best intentions it still gets old being told what to do all the time.

The only job I like is private EMS and I can move up and get my medic in a year. I like EMS because of the autonomy. Its just you and your partner in the ambo. No boss.

I have a couple degrees and I feel guilty for doing something "simple". The truth is that I suck at most jobs. I even suck at fast food jobs. I am only good at a very small amount of jobs ( is this normal?) Parents are shaming me as usual. They say simple jobs are not prestigious. I think that simplicity is happiness even if the pay isn't extraordinary. Help me out y'all.
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Most jobs suck for one reason or another.

Working on an ambulance was exciting at times, but could be stressful due to long/odd hours and dealing with lousy Medicaid abusers. EMTs definitely have social status, though. Saving lives is pretty cool. And a lot of chicks dig a man in uniform.

A co-worker and I had an idea to start our own non-emergency transport service, basically shuttling old people to doctors appointments and the like, but we both eventually got out of the field.
Its cool that you were also in the field. I like it because there is no boss on your back micromanaging you. If you and your partner get along then its gonna be a chill day. Its weird that EMS is in the limbo between blue collar and white collar work.

Bro I work at a lab that is supposedly a "status" job but it is crazy stressful and boss on my azz. I daydream about my part time EMS transport gig. So I might just go full-time on that. I feel like prestige is a trap. Thanks for the response man.
 
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One major advg. you have is your age. You may not believe it but 34 is young. You don't have to rush into anything and you may contine to revolve companies/jobs which I think is absolutely fine. Diversity is a splendid way to develop your skills. You get to work for different types of leaders and this will help to better sharpen your knowledge and skill.

I am 100% OK with being micromanaged. I invite you to see that as an opportunity not a negative thing at all in my opinion. Allow them to test you.

Be willing to do whatever you're asked, and try to do it better than asked.

You gotta humble yourself and earn your stripes. Doesn't matter how old or young or how many degrees. Great challenges bring out great qualities, and the willingness to succeed is a great quality, and it is 100% choice. Success takes time. The best opportunities rarely happen overnight. Took me 3 years at my current company to start making a solid consistent income but I've been in the same industry for 10 years. Didn't make much money for the majority of those years.


So guys I had to restart my life a couple years ago ( I am 34). I changed career paths. I quit my job a few months ago and went back on the job hunt. I managed to get a series of jobs. I quit all but 2 of them out of 6. I have a job as an EMT- Basic that I love but doesn't pay much ( pays okay for me). I also have a job in a lab that pays ok but it is super stressful. Is it normal for most jobs to be overly stressful and should I feel guilty for quitting most of them? Would you guys agree with the following observations about the job market?

1.) Most jobs are stressful. There is no correlation between stress and prestige of the job. Fast food can be just as stressful as investment banking.

2.) Micromanagement is the cause of most stress. Having a boss breathing down your back is horrible. Even if the boss has the best intentions it still gets old being told what to do all the time.

The only job I like is private EMS and I can move up and get my medic in a year. I like EMS because of the autonomy. Its just you and your partner in the ambo. No boss.

I have a couple degrees and I feel guilty for doing something "simple". The truth is that I suck at most jobs. I even suck at fast food jobs. I am only good at a very small amount of jobs ( is this normal?) Parents are shaming me as usual. They say simple jobs are not prestigious. I think that simplicity is happiness even if the pay isn't extraordinary. Help me out y'all.
 

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One major advg. you have is your age. You may not believe it but 34 is young. You don't have to rush into anything and you may contine to revolve companies/jobs which I think is absolutely fine. Diversity is a splendid way to develop your skills. You get to work for different types of leaders and this will help to better sharpen your knowledge and skill.

I am 100% OK with being micromanaged. I invite you to see that as an opportunity not a negative thing at all in my opinion. Allow them to test you.

Be willing to do whatever you're asked, and try to do it better than asked.

You gotta humble yourself and earn your stripes. Doesn't matter how old or young or how many degrees. Great challenges bring out great qualities, and the willingness to succeed is a great quality, and it is 100% choice. Success takes time. The best opportunities rarely happen overnight. Took me 3 years at my current company to start making a solid consistent income but I've been in the same industry for 10 years. Didn't make much money for the majority of those years.
Thanks for the reply bro. I am micromanaged by a female in her late 20's. She takes out her stress on the team. To be fair she is under a lot of stress herself and in normal situations she would be pleasant. Its an inherently stressful environment.
You are right though I do have to earn my stripes but I cant do the young female boss thing. I have to have autonomy like I do in ems. Were most of your bosses male Espi?
 

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Thanks for the reply bro. I am micromanaged by a female in her late 20's. She takes out her stress on the team. To be fair she is under a lot of stress herself and in normal situations she would be pleasant. Its an inherently stressful environment.
You are right though I do have to earn my stripes but I cant do the young female boss thing. I have to have autonomy like I do in ems. Were most of your bosses male Espi?
Here's the exact printout I keep on my workdesk:

INTANGIBLES

1. Arrive early and Stay late
2. Listen 80% speak 20%
3. Loose-ball work ethic
4. No-blame attitude
5. No gossip
6. Highest phone time
7. Do more than asked
9. "Please" "Thank You"
10. Will Smith treadmill quote
 
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There are ways to minimize stress, and it depends on what type of person you are. I don't mind rigid hours and micromanagement, that makes it easier to make decisions and keep things moving IMO. I rarely get behind. I would rather be part of a slow-moving machine than free-flowing up-and-down 'flexibility' or whatever. I'm known to procrastinate and I really don't like working with others. Giving me more autonomy would not work out unless I owned my own company and I was super interested in what I was doing.
 

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It all boils down to knowing yourself. Several years ago, I decided to make a list of what I was looking for in a career. I had worked at many different types of jobs over the years, so I had a pretty good idea. On one side, I listed all of the things I was looking for; on the other, I listed all of the things I absolutely wanted to avoid. Having a clear direction really helped me to end up in a better place.
 
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Yes...know thyself is one of the most sacred quotes ever. I know that I like low stress routine jobs with people interaction. I need to stick to that. Whats gets me in trouble is when I feel that I need to change myself to fit into what others expect from me. Family thinks I need a high stress high prestige, high income job. But I can do fine living on 50K a year and low stress. This is when I am my happiest.
 

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Just like you, it was difficult for me to overcome social pressure, but I was fortunate enough to find Harry Browne around the time I was going through my life change. His book Finding Freedom in an Unfree World really opened my eyes to a lot of things. It honestly changed my life, because suddenly I was more focused on what actually makes me happy, rather than what I had been programmed to believe would make me happy.
 

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lol sometimes following the money just puts you in bigger chains. For example, you can be in a well paying job with a toxic boss.

Thatsbthe difference between alphas an betas. I dont have a boss. Like who the f even calls someone their boss. I have a contracted employer whoever that maybe. Sure as fuk isnt my boss. And u can have a piece of **** employer or manager at any stage of the game. Wether u making 10k a yr or 100k
 

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Thatsbthe difference between alphas an betas. I dont have a boss. Like who the f even calls someone their boss. I have a contracted employer whoever that maybe. Sure as fuk isnt my boss. And u can have a piece of **** employer or manager at any stage of the game. Wether u making 10k a yr or 100k
You make decent points here about the boss, but there is something to trying to find something that suits your skills and temperament.
 
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