"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Damned

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Hi Guys,
Just need your advice and thoughts on something.
I was out tonight and a girl came over to me, asked was I single and gave me a piece of paper with her name and number on and then just walked off.
Now I need to ask the following

* Do you think it was a wind up?

* Is it a good thing

* And should I call the number or not? Shes not my type and I dont find her attractive, so if I was going with her I would be doing it for the wrong reasons or would It be good experience for me?

Another thing as Im not good at chatting up women, would it be easier for me to try this approach with girls I fancy, just leaving my number and then walking off?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Call the number. Hell, I'd call it right now in this situation. I would have called it right after she gave it to me.

That is all I have to contribute.
 

Obsidian

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whether she's your type or not, if men in general would consider her even moderately attractive, I'd probably go for it just for the experience if I were you. That's what you gotta do when you're still a n00b; beggars can't be choosers

if she's just totally ugly or really fat, then I probably wouldn't waste my time. In that instance, she'd probably be different from most girls anyway because she'll have very low self-esteem. So interacting her won't help you much in dealing with regular girls
 
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Only eat candy that you like, and not what is thrown to you - it may contain poison!!!
 

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And should I call the number or not? Shes not my type and I dont find her attractive
You answered your own question
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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