"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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styleman

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her: 'I'm back in town, meet me'
me: 'Sorry I can't I'm out of town on work, and I have too much, can't make it back to London for the next few days, possibly be back by Saturday'
her: 'I fly on Thursday' (1. I already knew this 2. Does she think I'll automatically do something about it...)
me: 'Miss you lots, wish I could make it back to meet you but this work is really important'
her: 'I miss you too, this is annoying.'
(I really had to think here wtf to say)
me: So when do you get back?
her: don't know (awkwardness, of course she knows!)
me: Ok, I hope you have an amazing trip
her: Thanks, bye

Whaaaa????????
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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r0cky

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She was looking for a quickie. she doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for you. I would've answered with short curt answers.
 

styleman

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r0cky said:
She was looking for a quickie. she doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for you. I would've answered with short curt answers.
How is the best way to earn respect from her?
 

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she has respect for you or she wouldnt have text you like this..
she has low intrest because you made it too easy for her in the past... be more busy and be polite about it and youll be golden... make your time valuable you did well mate.
 

styleman

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cyp6 said:
she has respect for you or she wouldnt have text you like this..
she has low intrest because you made it too easy for her in the past... be more busy and be polite about it and youll be golden... make your time valuable you did well mate.
Quite true, I did chase her a lot in the past, do you think that changing my behavior now would reverse that?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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