"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Straight Up asking a girl to take her on a date? No "lets hang out" sh!t

Soprano

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I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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horaholic

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Whats the point of calling it a date? it is what it is. I've done it before, and the girls agreed. This was only after I was sure I was in though.

If you ask a girl on a 'date,' she has no idea what you have planned for her, so it's kind of stupid. You say, 'lets do this...' she says yes. then you say, "Ok its a date, see ya then." If she says, "its not a date," you say "fine, its not a date, " but it really is, anyway, so who cares what she labels it?
 

Kal0051

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let me put it this way, if your hanging out with a girl you don't know and it's just the two of you then it's a date. There's no reason to put a label on it, you both know what it is.
 

jophil28

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Soprano said:
I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
Remove these words from your vocab. " ..let me take you out.."

Apart from that, do whatever works for you.
 

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zekko

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Damn, I hate all this terminology. In my experience, different women will define the terms in different ways, so there's no way of telling what it all means anyway.
 

She_feelin_Me

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I dont use date or let me take you out....Date sounds like some **** you use to say back in high school and let me take you out sounds like some trickin ****. I just be like "Friday night lets you and me get together"...thats it, she knows whats going down if you plan and communicate right with her.
 

King Turi

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I usually meet people while I'm already out.

So I'm more like wanna come back to my place?


But for someone who's number I've obtained, well, I basically don't even bother trying to set anything up, unless it's to get them to go to wherever I'm going that night.

Like I'd call 'em up and say "yo you comin' out to XXX tonight?"

Going to movies and all that crap I kinda save for when we are actually official.
 
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