"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Straight Up asking a girl to take her on a date? No "lets hang out" sh!t

Soprano

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I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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horaholic

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Whats the point of calling it a date? it is what it is. I've done it before, and the girls agreed. This was only after I was sure I was in though.

If you ask a girl on a 'date,' she has no idea what you have planned for her, so it's kind of stupid. You say, 'lets do this...' she says yes. then you say, "Ok its a date, see ya then." If she says, "its not a date," you say "fine, its not a date, " but it really is, anyway, so who cares what she labels it?
 

Kal0051

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let me put it this way, if your hanging out with a girl you don't know and it's just the two of you then it's a date. There's no reason to put a label on it, you both know what it is.
 

jophil28

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Soprano said:
I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
Remove these words from your vocab. " ..let me take you out.."

Apart from that, do whatever works for you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zekko

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Damn, I hate all this terminology. In my experience, different women will define the terms in different ways, so there's no way of telling what it all means anyway.
 

She_feelin_Me

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I dont use date or let me take you out....Date sounds like some **** you use to say back in high school and let me take you out sounds like some trickin ****. I just be like "Friday night lets you and me get together"...thats it, she knows whats going down if you plan and communicate right with her.
 

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I usually meet people while I'm already out.

So I'm more like wanna come back to my place?


But for someone who's number I've obtained, well, I basically don't even bother trying to set anything up, unless it's to get them to go to wherever I'm going that night.

Like I'd call 'em up and say "yo you comin' out to XXX tonight?"

Going to movies and all that crap I kinda save for when we are actually official.
 
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