"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Straight Up asking a girl to take her on a date? No "lets hang out" sh!t

Soprano

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I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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horaholic

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Whats the point of calling it a date? it is what it is. I've done it before, and the girls agreed. This was only after I was sure I was in though.

If you ask a girl on a 'date,' she has no idea what you have planned for her, so it's kind of stupid. You say, 'lets do this...' she says yes. then you say, "Ok its a date, see ya then." If she says, "its not a date," you say "fine, its not a date, " but it really is, anyway, so who cares what she labels it?
 

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let me put it this way, if your hanging out with a girl you don't know and it's just the two of you then it's a date. There's no reason to put a label on it, you both know what it is.
 

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Soprano said:
I know the idea of a "Date" is generally frowned upon by most gurus...and you're supposed to say stuff like "lets go dancing/im going to ___ you should come with/lets hang out/lets etc"...but have you ever just been like fckk it and said "yaknow you should let me take you out on a date friday"? what were your results like?

Lately I've just been being really upfront with girls to good results, wondering how much further to take it without shooting myself in the foot lol I could be wrong, since im guessing the gurus say "date" mindsets are bad ideas for a reason.
Remove these words from your vocab. " ..let me take you out.."

Apart from that, do whatever works for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko

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Damn, I hate all this terminology. In my experience, different women will define the terms in different ways, so there's no way of telling what it all means anyway.
 

She_feelin_Me

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I dont use date or let me take you out....Date sounds like some **** you use to say back in high school and let me take you out sounds like some trickin ****. I just be like "Friday night lets you and me get together"...thats it, she knows whats going down if you plan and communicate right with her.
 

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I usually meet people while I'm already out.

So I'm more like wanna come back to my place?


But for someone who's number I've obtained, well, I basically don't even bother trying to set anything up, unless it's to get them to go to wherever I'm going that night.

Like I'd call 'em up and say "yo you comin' out to XXX tonight?"

Going to movies and all that crap I kinda save for when we are actually official.
 
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