Story Time. An example of what happens to men that have been lied to

[BackInTheGame78]

All good. Just for some clarification, and I failed to mention this before, but this friend has told me a while back that he trusts his judgement based on how many women hes been with. And I have found a lot of guys think they're experts bc they got plenty of play but end up making some detrimental and totally avoidable mistakes because there is obviously way more that comes with finding someone rather than just sex. Its just way easier to think that you can have fun and settle down when you're ready but it's just not so simple like it seems on paper. And that mindset is a great way to potentially dig yourself into a deep rabbit hole. And i feel like plenty of younger men or late bloomers that are focused on getting as many bodies as possible need to hear this.

It sounds like he is great at getting laid and having women be interested but not in the part that comes after that.

Also, doesn't sound like he is particularly good at screening woman and making decisions on what they qualify for from him.

Just because a woman is great in bed, doesn't make them great to be in a relationship with.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I will die on the hill that I would rather be a divorced bachelor male than a bachelor male who has never been married/in a real LTR his whole life. Once you figure out the system, getting laid is really easy to do. LTRs actually require working on your flaws and other uncomfortable truths.

 

[The Duke]

This guy is deficient in many categories if he is falling for some random girl so early. He might be a player, but thats about all he is good at. He needs to get burned a few times so he will learn.

 

[CBear]

This guy is deficient in many categories if he is falling for some random girl so early. He might be a player, but thats about all he is good at. He needs to get burned a few times so he will learn.

It's just a matter of life taking care of itself naturally, whether i would've interfered or not. My thought process is that a lot of people need to go through things such as this anyways in order to be more grateful later on and to have a better idea of what to look for (if they appropriately reflect. Some people don't and just blame the other person and then go through a cycle of unnecessary BS with new people). I know that I had to go through the bs myself, once upon a time. How else does one learn.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This guy is deficient in many categories if he is falling for some random girl so early. He might be a player, but thats about all he is good at. He needs to get burned a few times so he will learn.

Some people continue to get burned and never learn from their mistakes because they keep getting easy access to lays so they don't put the work into the other parts of relationships, which is the actual hard part of them.

Hopefully he learns from his mistakes and then course corrects.

 

[Manure Spherian]

That having pointless sex with random people is fun and will build experience and judgement.

Umm, you’re on a seduction site.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Umm, you’re on a seduction site.

There’s different end goals though lol. I originally came here for help on some girl I had oneitis for. I never gave two shvts about sarging or cold approaching women.

 

[Barrister]

Great post.

I agree with everything you said in your OP. Will agree that having sex with lots of different women ultimately does not lend itself to meaningful experience when it comes to relationships generally speaking. I would add though, there are instances where a woman's latent personality quirks (or outright disorders) do not make themselves easily recognizable except over long periods of time. Many times, it requires triggering events like moving in together, getting pregnant, etc. for those to actually show up. Certainly, experience will teach you what to look for to root that out sooner than later -- but at times these things can be unavoidable and it is a matter of whether you risk it or not.

In the case of your friend, I would say he is an extreme case of desperation to be committing to someone he doesn't know after three weeks. I would certainly be dissuading him from his excitement if I was in your shoes, although I know sometimes there is nothing you can do in those instances as the friend.

 

[Solomon]

I have buddies similar to your buddy, minus the player part, very accomplished, great guys, know their stuff in their career field and other topics i.e. tech, crypto, finance, etc

But when it comes to women, it's like they're clueless. One of my buddies got into the "Redpill podcast" stuff a few years ago, went deep into the rabbit hole that it actually affected one of his relationships cause he kept shaming his ex over her "body count"

 

[RangerMIke]

Everyone has a past that subconsciously guides our behavior.

The inability to exercise emotional self-control will always get someone in trouble.

We are all human, and susceptible to emotion. But you cannot let your emotions drag you around like you are some animal. Be it dealing with relationships, allowing some a-hole on the highway trigger road rage, or buying into some investment con.