Barrister
Master Don Juan
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Going to get on my soap box very briefly. I think its sort of sad that the two hottest threads right now on SoSuave are "best kept secret is black women" and "asian women vs. white western women." Stereotypes of women -- I am not here to debate what they are or the degree to how true they are in fitting a certain demographic/race/etc. Here is what I will say:
By focusing so much on women's traits, you are taking the onus off of yourself. This is what SS has been about from the start: looking at yourself and improving yourself. It is not done for the women. You do it for you. When you improve yourself your SMV will increase which naturally will open more doors when it comes to getting higher SMV women -- but this is not supposed to be the primary purpose of doing this.
And yes - I know that the primary purpose of SS is to get with women. All of us came here because we either got dumped or weren't having as much success dating as we liked. That doesn't change the fact that putting so much focus on the women and not on yourself is (in my opinion) a mistake and will hinder you. Especially being when you start putting women into such superficial categories of date-ability based upon their skin color/race. Everyone has their preferences - let's leave it at that and focus more on how we can improve ourselves and our game.
By focusing so much on women's traits, you are taking the onus off of yourself. This is what SS has been about from the start: looking at yourself and improving yourself. It is not done for the women. You do it for you. When you improve yourself your SMV will increase which naturally will open more doors when it comes to getting higher SMV women -- but this is not supposed to be the primary purpose of doing this.
And yes - I know that the primary purpose of SS is to get with women. All of us came here because we either got dumped or weren't having as much success dating as we liked. That doesn't change the fact that putting so much focus on the women and not on yourself is (in my opinion) a mistake and will hinder you. Especially being when you start putting women into such superficial categories of date-ability based upon their skin color/race. Everyone has their preferences - let's leave it at that and focus more on how we can improve ourselves and our game.