Ditto man. This is a must read for you newbies!Originally posted by Superman X
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ditto man. This is a must read for you newbies!Originally posted by Superman X
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I hear ya PRL.. but part of the problem is that this behavior is permitted here. I say we should have a zero-tolerance policy for whiners. All these effeminate rants just clog space up and is degrading the quality of this forum! It sets a bad example to all the newcomers when you got the blind leading the blind and a bunch of AFC wallowing in self pity. These guys dont need love and understanding, they need to be b!tch-slapped back into reality!Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
This is only the millionth post reminding newbies not to whine!! The reason that there are new members that come here is because they are in the beginning stages of forming their new selves - so of course newbies are going to whine, moan and bytch - this is expected from the young and inexperienced!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Obviously she has a bladder infection.Originally posted by Don Ronny
"She looked at me twice and then went to pee, what do I do?"
There is nothing more degrading and scandalous than an effeminate man and nothing more sickly than those who approve of such a mindset and ill conduct!. Whining, moaning and bytching are of the feminine realm of existence - I agree there.Originally posted by Don Ronny
I hear ya PRL.. but We gots to set these young uns straight from the start and not make excuses for feminine behavior. You of all peple would agree with this, no?
LMAO!!Originally posted by Mack Action Hero
Obviously she has a bladder infection.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You hit the nail on the head. The problem with this forum is that we have too many AFC sympathizers. These guys dont need a shoulder to cry on, they got they momma for that! What they need is some tough love, the kind their fathers shoulda gave em but never did.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Those alone in their room on a computer seeking counsel want feedback from another person who is in tune or care about his personal/desperate situation. This makes him feel as if he is part of a larger community and relieves him of his solitude. This forum and advice from its’ members gives him inner strength and a psychological push to take on a bigger challenge that he would otherwise fear to face on his own conviction.
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.I remember when I first came here.. I got the sh!T kicked out of me and I am grateful for that because it woke me up from my "poor me" state.
Touche Dirtheart. I forgot to mention that.Originally posted by Dirtheart
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.
It's one thing telling everyone to stop being a wuss, be a man and grow some balls etc, but they need to know how and why, and have some proof that people here can relate and know what they're talking about, rather than just asserting their egos.
I'm not talking sympathy, but understanding helps a lot in my opinion.
Well stated DJ Dirtheart!Originally posted by Dirtheart
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.
It's one thing telling everyone to stop being a wuss, be a man and grow some balls etc, but they need to know how and why, and have some proof that people here can relate and know what they're talking about, rather than just asserting their egos.
I'm not talking sympathy, but understanding helps a lot in my opinion.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.