Ditto man. This is a must read for you newbies!Originally posted by Superman X
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ditto man. This is a must read for you newbies!Originally posted by Superman X
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I hear ya PRL.. but part of the problem is that this behavior is permitted here. I say we should have a zero-tolerance policy for whiners. All these effeminate rants just clog space up and is degrading the quality of this forum! It sets a bad example to all the newcomers when you got the blind leading the blind and a bunch of AFC wallowing in self pity. These guys dont need love and understanding, they need to be b!tch-slapped back into reality!Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
This is only the millionth post reminding newbies not to whine!! The reason that there are new members that come here is because they are in the beginning stages of forming their new selves - so of course newbies are going to whine, moan and bytch - this is expected from the young and inexperienced!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Obviously she has a bladder infection.Originally posted by Don Ronny
"She looked at me twice and then went to pee, what do I do?"
There is nothing more degrading and scandalous than an effeminate man and nothing more sickly than those who approve of such a mindset and ill conduct!. Whining, moaning and bytching are of the feminine realm of existence - I agree there.Originally posted by Don Ronny
I hear ya PRL.. but We gots to set these young uns straight from the start and not make excuses for feminine behavior. You of all peple would agree with this, no?
LMAO!!Originally posted by Mack Action Hero
Obviously she has a bladder infection.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You hit the nail on the head. The problem with this forum is that we have too many AFC sympathizers. These guys dont need a shoulder to cry on, they got they momma for that! What they need is some tough love, the kind their fathers shoulda gave em but never did.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Those alone in their room on a computer seeking counsel want feedback from another person who is in tune or care about his personal/desperate situation. This makes him feel as if he is part of a larger community and relieves him of his solitude. This forum and advice from its’ members gives him inner strength and a psychological push to take on a bigger challenge that he would otherwise fear to face on his own conviction.
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.I remember when I first came here.. I got the sh!T kicked out of me and I am grateful for that because it woke me up from my "poor me" state.
Touche Dirtheart. I forgot to mention that.Originally posted by Dirtheart
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.
It's one thing telling everyone to stop being a wuss, be a man and grow some balls etc, but they need to know how and why, and have some proof that people here can relate and know what they're talking about, rather than just asserting their egos.
I'm not talking sympathy, but understanding helps a lot in my opinion.
Well stated DJ Dirtheart!Originally posted by Dirtheart
Really? If I'd have encountered that reaction I'd have never come back to the board.
It's one thing telling everyone to stop being a wuss, be a man and grow some balls etc, but they need to know how and why, and have some proof that people here can relate and know what they're talking about, rather than just asserting their egos.
I'm not talking sympathy, but understanding helps a lot in my opinion.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.