Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:I never text, IM, or email chicks and when I call the conversation isn't going to last more than 5 minutes because I have better things to do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What he said.Originally posted by Jariel
I don't agree at all. Many of my girlfriends, dates and casual flings came about via texting. I've even built good rapport and intimacy via text conversations too and transformed acquaintances into friends and into lovers. Same thing goes for emails and IMs.
Besides, I prefer text messages over phonecalls as I can pick them up and reply at a convenient time without being disturbed. I'm sure many girls feel the same way.
Personally, I'm a big advocate of text messaging and I've experienced enough success to know it works for me.
hey man I got a girls number at a party then texted her a few days later to meet up. We met up then she gave me a BJ. Thank you for the great tip though! now I won't let sh1t like that happen!Originally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
timing wasn't so perfect.Originally posted by quest
stop being a virgin.
Tonight I'm going to see a girl whose parents are out of town who calls me "pinky" because when she met me I was in a pink shirt, and we set up the date by text.
I'll be getting laid tonight. what will you be doing?
-none of this is a lie. its just perfect timing.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if ur texting a girl with a boyfriend.... she leaves the message in the phone.. that'd be trouble.Originally posted by Jariel
I'm wondering, has anyone got any real life examples they can share where texting has caused them problems with women?
KEYBOARD JOCKEY THEORYOriginally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
Why not just stop texting and ask the girl on a damn date or something god damn guys.Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?
Drop the vowels manOriginally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?