Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:I never text, IM, or email chicks and when I call the conversation isn't going to last more than 5 minutes because I have better things to do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What he said.Originally posted by Jariel
I don't agree at all. Many of my girlfriends, dates and casual flings came about via texting. I've even built good rapport and intimacy via text conversations too and transformed acquaintances into friends and into lovers. Same thing goes for emails and IMs.
Besides, I prefer text messages over phonecalls as I can pick them up and reply at a convenient time without being disturbed. I'm sure many girls feel the same way.
Personally, I'm a big advocate of text messaging and I've experienced enough success to know it works for me.
hey man I got a girls number at a party then texted her a few days later to meet up. We met up then she gave me a BJ. Thank you for the great tip though! now I won't let sh1t like that happen!Originally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
timing wasn't so perfect.Originally posted by quest
stop being a virgin.
Tonight I'm going to see a girl whose parents are out of town who calls me "pinky" because when she met me I was in a pink shirt, and we set up the date by text.
I'll be getting laid tonight. what will you be doing?
-none of this is a lie. its just perfect timing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
if ur texting a girl with a boyfriend.... she leaves the message in the phone.. that'd be trouble.Originally posted by Jariel
I'm wondering, has anyone got any real life examples they can share where texting has caused them problems with women?
KEYBOARD JOCKEY THEORYOriginally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
Why not just stop texting and ask the girl on a damn date or something god damn guys.Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?
Drop the vowels manOriginally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.
anyone here who can help on my texting?