"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop texting

arlanda

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It's a bad idea to use txts early.

The thing is I also prefer texts but they may get wrong idea that calling them is a problem for me.

Grab your balls and make the ****ing phone call, dude ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dust 2 Dust

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I never text, IM, or email chicks and when I call the conversation isn't going to last more than 5 minutes because I have better things to do.
 

frivolousz21

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I never text, IM, or email chicks and when I call the conversation isn't going to last more than 5 minutes because I have better things to do.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

speedo_meme

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what's so funny about that post? It may be extreme, but it won't backfire.
 

frivolousz21

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better things to do?

LIKE what?

climb rocks? sky dive? build model cars????

run, lift weights, play sports, study?

lol I mean hell I hate conversing with women too!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Lifeforce

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Originally posted by Jariel
I don't agree at all. Many of my girlfriends, dates and casual flings came about via texting. I've even built good rapport and intimacy via text conversations too and transformed acquaintances into friends and into lovers. Same thing goes for emails and IMs.

Besides, I prefer text messages over phonecalls as I can pick them up and reply at a convenient time without being disturbed. I'm sure many girls feel the same way.

Personally, I'm a big advocate of text messaging and I've experienced enough success to know it works for me.
What he said.
 

white_hype

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Originally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
hey man I got a girls number at a party then texted her a few days later to meet up. We met up then she gave me a BJ. Thank you for the great tip though! now I won't let sh1t like that happen!
 

Jariel

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I'm wondering, has anyone got any real life examples they can share where texting has caused them problems with women?
 

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Re: Re: Stop texting

Originally posted by quest
stop being a virgin.

Tonight I'm going to see a girl whose parents are out of town who calls me "pinky" because when she met me I was in a pink shirt, and we set up the date by text.

I'll be getting laid tonight. what will you be doing?

-none of this is a lie. its just perfect timing.
timing wasn't so perfect.

she had her period. still had a good time for a wednesday night :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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quest

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Originally posted by Jariel
I'm wondering, has anyone got any real life examples they can share where texting has caused them problems with women?
if ur texting a girl with a boyfriend.... she leaves the message in the phone.. that'd be trouble.
hasn't happened to me, i don't mess with girls like that..
 

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Originally posted by Broham
Stop texting. Texting was invented for women as another vehicle to babble about shopping, men and pop culture. You are just another one of her girlfriends if you text her, the same label cast upon you if you wore a pink shirt.
KEYBOARD JOCKEY THEORY
 

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me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.

anyone here who can help on my texting?
 

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Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.

anyone here who can help on my texting?
Why not just stop texting and ask the girl on a damn date or something god damn guys.

Since when do men have to rely on who the better 'text messager' is to get a chick?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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quest

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Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.

anyone here who can help on my texting?

why are u even in that situation?
he's your friend.
let him have her, go meet a different girl.
 

Q-Pid

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Originally posted by Lhemmix
me and a friend are eyeing the same girl.
i'm falling behind him since he makes better text messages than me.

anyone here who can help on my texting?
Drop the vowels man
Drop 'em like they're Hawt!
 
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