I am a freshman in college about 3 hours from my old high school. Anyways, this one girl added me as a friend after I graduated and she is a junior in high school and very attractive. We never met in person before but I would like to get some dialogue going between us so when I'm back home over holidays and over the summer we could hang out. I have no other way of contacting her. What do you suggest I message to her to start things off with? Also, don't tell me to not bother or just get college girls. I can do that and at the same time set things up with this girl as well!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Frank_Tartaglia
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Sending a private message is ok. You could also comment on something she's posted, ei status update, pix, whatever. Just get a conversation going with her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ThatMysteriousGuy
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I'm going to anyway. You haven't met her and you have no idea of how old she really is.Energy25 said:
And, I'll continue being a ****, why bother with that unknown possible life-hosing situation when there are plenty of women with a plan surrounding you.
Don't ever say you weren't warned :nono:
ThatMysteriousGuy
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She could be 16 or 20. I'm not trying to harsh your buzz, just bringing that to your attention. I'm sure your intentions are good but that's the most important bit of information you need to 100% nail down before things go farther.Energy25 said:
Really. You HAVE to know she's standard age for a junior.
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actually deleted, just noticed about the age thing. sounds bad bro dont go !
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Be like "OMG! Can't believe i completely forgot about the cutest sophomore from my old high school! You finding me here... Its destiny babyy!"
If you'd prefer use something other than "sophomore" like her race or something. Like the "cutest white girl" or whatever you can come up with based on her.
hope you got good follow up game playa!
If you'd prefer use something other than "sophomore" like her race or something. Like the "cutest white girl" or whatever you can come up with based on her.
hope you got good follow up game playa!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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smells like jailbait
hah glad we're approaching this maturely
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.
yeah man I know exactly what you mean! Just thinking about it, I now realize how easy it would be to get a girl in high school...Now with this girl, I literally don't know her and have never talked to her in person. She probably added me because I was a pretty good runner in high school and everybody knew me as "an amazing runner"...even if it wasn't true, that's what everyone thinks haha...so I guess I'll just message her and see what happens! Why not, I've got nothing to lose! And good luck with your girl man! Sounds fun!(JJ) said:hah glad we're approaching this maturely
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.