I am a freshman in college about 3 hours from my old high school. Anyways, this one girl added me as a friend after I graduated and she is a junior in high school and very attractive. We never met in person before but I would like to get some dialogue going between us so when I'm back home over holidays and over the summer we could hang out. I have no other way of contacting her. What do you suggest I message to her to start things off with? Also, don't tell me to not bother or just get college girls. I can do that and at the same time set things up with this girl as well!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Frank_Tartaglia
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Sending a private message is ok. You could also comment on something she's posted, ei status update, pix, whatever. Just get a conversation going with her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ThatMysteriousGuy
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I'm going to anyway. You haven't met her and you have no idea of how old she really is.Energy25 said:
And, I'll continue being a ****, why bother with that unknown possible life-hosing situation when there are plenty of women with a plan surrounding you.
Don't ever say you weren't warned :nono:
ThatMysteriousGuy
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She could be 16 or 20. I'm not trying to harsh your buzz, just bringing that to your attention. I'm sure your intentions are good but that's the most important bit of information you need to 100% nail down before things go farther.Energy25 said:
Really. You HAVE to know she's standard age for a junior.
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actually deleted, just noticed about the age thing. sounds bad bro dont go !
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Be like "OMG! Can't believe i completely forgot about the cutest sophomore from my old high school! You finding me here... Its destiny babyy!"
If you'd prefer use something other than "sophomore" like her race or something. Like the "cutest white girl" or whatever you can come up with based on her.
hope you got good follow up game playa!
If you'd prefer use something other than "sophomore" like her race or something. Like the "cutest white girl" or whatever you can come up with based on her.
hope you got good follow up game playa!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
mustfirstregister
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smells like jailbait
hah glad we're approaching this maturely
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.
yeah man I know exactly what you mean! Just thinking about it, I now realize how easy it would be to get a girl in high school...Now with this girl, I literally don't know her and have never talked to her in person. She probably added me because I was a pretty good runner in high school and everybody knew me as "an amazing runner"...even if it wasn't true, that's what everyone thinks haha...so I guess I'll just message her and see what happens! Why not, I've got nothing to lose! And good luck with your girl man! Sounds fun!(JJ) said:hah glad we're approaching this maturely
i'm in a similar sitch, dude. a girl who's a senior at a hs near mine is becoming one of my plates as we speak (and i go to college about 2 hrs from home)
i laid a better foundation than it sounds like you have... BUT you should just message her being like hey. and then game her. i dont know about you, but since coming to college, i've thought about how much easier hs game was than college. not to mention you've got that "older guy, ooh la la" thing in your favor.
it can be done, with fairly little effort. as i said, this girl's becoming a plate, not a oneitis, and i've only been out with her once. if i get busy with finals and everything, our next date could very well be her high school's winter dance. ha.