Starting over socially at 30

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My current social group pisses me off, so I'm going to look for other social outlets. I'm going to cut back on drinking and spend that money on some hobby. I am thinking of a few possibilities.

CrossFit: I had fun with it but not as much as with martial arts. People were welcoming and friendly, but I never got to know someone past a surface level.

MMA: This is my favorite in terms of the actual activity, but very few women do this or are really into it.

Dancing Classes: This seems to be the most widely recommended way to meet women but my least favorite thing to do. I can't dance for ****.

Jogging group: I enjoy running, but I've never joined a group for it, so I know next to nothing about this.

Hiking Group: I like hiking, usually alone though. I have a feeling the other people into it would be... weird or something.

Any of these would get me in better shape and looking good, plus I would have a nice social group for events and such. I strongly prefer social circle game for meeting women over cringey day game on the sidewalk. Which of these is the best in your opinion?
 

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Dancing classes but Its just a guess
 

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OP be conscious that all of these activities you've listed will attract the types that get obsessed with the hobby they probably aren't there too build the types of social connections you are looking for

You need to start chatting with guys in the gym , the gym is a more universally accessible hobby like you don't have to be into anything other than looking after your body to go there.

Also guys that go to the gym frequently GENERALLY tend to be single and also looking to build social connections

I actually enjoy chatting with guys more in my gym now than I do girls

I have made a couple of good freinds and one guy is really on my level so we do sh1t outside of the gym too ( NO HOMO )

I also went to a local church and I met a couple of guys there whom I get along with but they are a little bit "too much" at times and we don't have a massive amount in common

As someone who began a total overhaul of my social framework at 29 its taken me 2 years to simply get my mindset into a place where I am able to easy converse with a broad range of people

I suspect it will take another 2 to fully develop these into stable and productive social circles.
 

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I don't know where you are OP but where I am half the people hike.
 

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Man if you're looking for a whole new social circle/start over completely, you need to just be putting yourself out there in as many places as possible.

I was 23-24 when I bounced from my core group of friends. They were all a bit older and while they all had money to some extent, alot of them were thugs, involved in criminal activities, some married but still cheating on their wife , just scummy dudes. and it wasn't personal.. I still talk to one or two of them today but just from afar and don't hangout much .. It was just alot of low vibrational sht..

I had to just put myself out there, go to events, bars, clubs, do the online thing, etc. then I met some chick and she put me onto a buncha cool ass friends of hers and at first they'd ask me "hey when are you going to invite some of your friends".. which was tough to answer because I cut off most of my friends. But at 25 i started college too, and made some friends there, and invited some of them around as well as some old friends from my neighborhood.. didnt go over too well as they would come on too strong to some of the girls at some of the get together/parties who were prudeish.

But after a while I bounced from that group too and mostly found alot of cool alpha males after that from the nightlife, and just big ballers with nice jobs and good money. Around 28-29 my Ecommerce **** took off and suddenly I found myself into alot of money.. This will be the 5th year living a pretty lavish life. (You are the sum of who you hang around!)

Goes to show you man anything can happen. Just 7-8 years ago i was left with nothing, cut myself off from my main group of friends and was changing my life around from being considered a low life with low risk aversion who still had a good hustle mindset and a willingness to try new things.. to now making 6 figures a year and living like a pornstar.

When I say it doesn't get old, it really doesn't get old man. Sometimes I still marvel at the type of girls im banging.. like this can't be real life.. I've had moments where I'm in between 2 hot young chicks going ham on my piece and look around at myplace and feel like im living in a dream.

If you really pay attention to my threads, Im giving you all the sauce.. from meditation, setting goals and intentions, utilizing discipline ina ll areas of my life, to having to cut off people and start new, to always keeping fitness as my main foundation of progress, etc..

Go out there and kill it man. My DM's are open if you want to talk one on one
 

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My current social group pisses me off, so I'm going to look for other social outlets. I'm going to cut back on drinking and spend that money on some hobby. I am thinking of a few possibilities.

CrossFit: I had fun with it but not as much as with martial arts. People were welcoming and friendly, but I never got to know someone past a surface level.

MMA: This is my favorite in terms of the actual activity, but very few women do this or are really into it.

Dancing Classes: This seems to be the most widely recommended way to meet women but my least favorite thing to do. I can't dance for ****.

Jogging group: I enjoy running, but I've never joined a group for it, so I know next to nothing about this.

Hiking Group: I like hiking, usually alone though. I have a feeling the other people into it would be... weird or something.

Any of these would get me in better shape and looking good, plus I would have a nice social group for events and such. I strongly prefer social circle game for meeting women over cringey day game on the sidewalk. Which of these is the best in your opinion?
Salsa is love, salsa is life
 

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Which is the bigger priority? Arranging first dates or finding new male friends. It can be difficult to do both simultaneously.
 

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Which is the bigger priority? Arranging first dates or finding new male friends. It can be difficult to do both simultaneously.
I don't really understand why people say this though. Most social groups include men and women, and if you are only meeting other men through your social circle then you are left with Tinder and sidewalk "game."
 

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I don't really understand why people say this though. Most social groups include men and women, and if you are only meeting other men through your social circle then you are left with Tinder and sidewalk "game."
There are more options than swipe apps and street/sidewalk approach. There's a lot of indoor retail game and gym/fitness class game.
 

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There are more options than swipe apps and street/sidewalk approach. There's a lot of indoor retail game and gym/fitness class game.
Retail game is even more cringe than sidewalk game. Gym/fitness game fits what I am planning pretty well though.
 
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