You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
@sazc we have already done the alpha male stuff. I'm just a a.s.s.hole lol she's the one posting loads of status about me and I just sit back and wait for her to come back then I repeat the whole thing again. What can I say? I guess I am a c.u.n.t.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Excellent advice! Things were going well with this one single mom I was seeing a couple years ago and she started pushing the “I can see this going somewhere long term” hinting around at a relationship. I ignored it the first 3 attempts she made to “have the talk” but the 4th attempt I had to come up with an answer. Basically I just said “look, we don’t habe to label what we are, let’s just keep enjoying each other’s company and take things as they come”. She liked that response and she admitted she started pushing for a relationship because she’d had so many guys that pushed HER for one, she wasn’t used to a guy like me who still didn’t bring up the R word after 4 months.lol
You obviously have difficulties discerning between a$$hole behavior and power struggles
Azzhole movements done in the pigs sty are often done on autopilot. They do it to appear "above" you. There are many defenses and attacks one is being super clean and visibly dominant. The pig will use triangulation and groups to attempt to diminish you in comparison. Its a long discussion but the tools will be useful for navigating this game of life.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah. You are not MGTOW though. That stuff deals with guys avoiding serious LTRs and marriage and potential false rape claims. It does not deal with not getting attention from women in the first place. You seem more of a top tier incel than MGTOW.