Sup, here's my question: before the Xmas break, I had three prospects, but in the end I decided not to go for any of them because one was still focused on her ex, one was way too ditsy, and the last one is a friend from when I was a super AFC. But I also don't think any other people at my school who would even be worth it. So do you guys think it's better to lower your standards and give some girls a chance, or do you wait for someone who's worth it?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Hmm... but, you can practice on women beneath your standard, right? 
I know it may sound unethical, but seeing as I live in a city with 7 guys to 3 girls and 90% of those girls isn't even worth looking at, I'm getting the feeling I should really lower my standards or I'll never get any field practice.
Fortunatly I am on a school with a lot of HB8-HB9's on it.
The problem with that though, is that I already have an AFC rep and most of them won't even spend a moment's time with me anymore.
Plus, my brother slept with 2 of the most popular girls a while ago, which may sound like it could be a good thing, but for some reason they feel like sluts because of it and thus they don't like me, killing my chances with pretty much the entire flock of HB's.
Not that I really care, it's just annoying that the few HB's that live here won't even talk to me normally
I know it may sound unethical, but seeing as I live in a city with 7 guys to 3 girls and 90% of those girls isn't even worth looking at, I'm getting the feeling I should really lower my standards or I'll never get any field practice.
Fortunatly I am on a school with a lot of HB8-HB9's on it.
The problem with that though, is that I already have an AFC rep and most of them won't even spend a moment's time with me anymore.
Plus, my brother slept with 2 of the most popular girls a while ago, which may sound like it could be a good thing, but for some reason they feel like sluts because of it and thus they don't like me, killing my chances with pretty much the entire flock of HB's.
Not that I really care, it's just annoying that the few HB's that live here won't even talk to me normally
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For a serious girlfriend, you dont want to lower your standards. But don't set them too high so that you won't be able to attain them. But for a hook-up or just to have fun, it wouldn't hurt. But dont go with clingy girls. They wont get it that its just a hook-up. Get with a girl that knows that its nothing more and wont be anything else.