Sup, here's my question: before the Xmas break, I had three prospects, but in the end I decided not to go for any of them because one was still focused on her ex, one was way too ditsy, and the last one is a friend from when I was a super AFC. But I also don't think any other people at my school who would even be worth it. So do you guys think it's better to lower your standards and give some girls a chance, or do you wait for someone who's worth it?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I-am-someone
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Hmm... but, you can practice on women beneath your standard, right? 
I know it may sound unethical, but seeing as I live in a city with 7 guys to 3 girls and 90% of those girls isn't even worth looking at, I'm getting the feeling I should really lower my standards or I'll never get any field practice.
Fortunatly I am on a school with a lot of HB8-HB9's on it.
The problem with that though, is that I already have an AFC rep and most of them won't even spend a moment's time with me anymore.
Plus, my brother slept with 2 of the most popular girls a while ago, which may sound like it could be a good thing, but for some reason they feel like sluts because of it and thus they don't like me, killing my chances with pretty much the entire flock of HB's.
Not that I really care, it's just annoying that the few HB's that live here won't even talk to me normally
I know it may sound unethical, but seeing as I live in a city with 7 guys to 3 girls and 90% of those girls isn't even worth looking at, I'm getting the feeling I should really lower my standards or I'll never get any field practice.
Fortunatly I am on a school with a lot of HB8-HB9's on it.
The problem with that though, is that I already have an AFC rep and most of them won't even spend a moment's time with me anymore.
Plus, my brother slept with 2 of the most popular girls a while ago, which may sound like it could be a good thing, but for some reason they feel like sluts because of it and thus they don't like me, killing my chances with pretty much the entire flock of HB's.
Not that I really care, it's just annoying that the few HB's that live here won't even talk to me normally
LuvMyArmyMan
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For a serious girlfriend, you dont want to lower your standards. But don't set them too high so that you won't be able to attain them. But for a hook-up or just to have fun, it wouldn't hurt. But dont go with clingy girls. They wont get it that its just a hook-up. Get with a girl that knows that its nothing more and wont be anything else.