Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Congrats, keep it up!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Some changes here and there should get things flying then. If you haven't done any overhead work I would definitely put some in. Something like:I-tallionStallion said:I like that that format you gave me...sounds interesting. I think i want to give it a shot. Thanks very much Quag.
I have been doing the same workout for basically a year now. With minor changes and just trying other exercises out a little. I guess no overhead stuff really
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
He means dumbell bicep curls.Quagmire911 said:I can't really make out what you are asking, either it is because it is late or I am a tool.
What do you think of trying:
Incline work
Seated D.b press or OHpress 2x8-10
Dips 2/3x6-8
Skull crushers 2/3x...(Keep the rep range you have if you are progressing in it, if not switch to another rep range or a new tri exercise).
I would definitely put bi curls in if they around that level. Mine are really low as well, at the point where it can only benefit me adding them in. Bi's play a role in bench too and for all you know that is what is holding it back. They are surprisingly low considering 400x5, just to point it out.
For the skullcrushers look at what I posted in Johnny's log about going up to 12 reps and then upping the weight. Not sure if you tried that already or not.
Btw, once you start slowing up on deads and squats, it would probably be time to look at Westside perhaps. As I mentioned above this is what I am aiming to do, although I am not 100% sure on the logistics yet.
Congrats on the dead btw.
I don't think he meant dumbbell bi curls although I may be wrong. He was referring to barbell curls I think.Mad Manic said:He means dumbell bicep curls.
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Pretty bad I imagine, OH Press is one of the hardest lifts to build up.Quagmire911 said:Will be interesting to see what condition your overhead work is in if you haven't done any. Maybe you will be lucky.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.