"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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zekko

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I still think the setting where a mod must approve a member's first post would be useful. A lot of spam and troll posts come from a member's very first post.
When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
Eventually you will also have the door wide open for moderators dictatorships.

Moderators will lead the forum based on their préférences (posting and posters material will be decided by them)

It will kill the democratics and accessibility of the forum.

Anyway, you need to deal with haters/negativity in a alpha matter.

1) ignore them
2) leave the négative people/places
3) have a sense of humour about it that will cut their legs and make them powerless.

Like in life.

Losers are to be avoided
Negativity to be kept far
Have a sense of humour because life is mysterious and complex, so you better laught at it
 

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
We got a LOT of post reports where a SS member alleges "troll" when it could be a troll, OR, it could also just as easily be a new member who really doesn't know and needs help. Anytime we think there is a slight chance it's the latter we don't intervene. It's a judgement call.
 

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I care zero about trolls/haters. I am a hater of spam, and this place is the low-hanging fruit for spammers and bots. The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person. I think that will be the inevitable end of all Internet forums, when it is impossible to tell who is human and who is not.
 

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The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person.
If you took some time to look at all the other forums that the spammers post the same posts on, Sosuave is the ONLY place where people actually engage in conversation.

To me, that says more of the gullibility (and desperateness) of SS'ers than the cleverness of the spammers.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I went from being a socially awkward virgin to having sex with my 25 year old manager. I also lasted nearly an hour my first time. All thanks to this forum.

I've avoided and read a lot of situations too. Once a girl is interested in me then there's absolutely no way I can't keep the ball rolling now.
 
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