"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zekko

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I still think the setting where a mod must approve a member's first post would be useful. A lot of spam and troll posts come from a member's very first post.
When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
Eventually you will also have the door wide open for moderators dictatorships.

Moderators will lead the forum based on their préférences (posting and posters material will be decided by them)

It will kill the democratics and accessibility of the forum.

Anyway, you need to deal with haters/negativity in a alpha matter.

1) ignore them
2) leave the négative people/places
3) have a sense of humour about it that will cut their legs and make them powerless.

Like in life.

Losers are to be avoided
Negativity to be kept far
Have a sense of humour because life is mysterious and complex, so you better laught at it
 

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
We got a LOT of post reports where a SS member alleges "troll" when it could be a troll, OR, it could also just as easily be a new member who really doesn't know and needs help. Anytime we think there is a slight chance it's the latter we don't intervene. It's a judgement call.
 

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I care zero about trolls/haters. I am a hater of spam, and this place is the low-hanging fruit for spammers and bots. The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person. I think that will be the inevitable end of all Internet forums, when it is impossible to tell who is human and who is not.
 

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The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person.
If you took some time to look at all the other forums that the spammers post the same posts on, Sosuave is the ONLY place where people actually engage in conversation.

To me, that says more of the gullibility (and desperateness) of SS'ers than the cleverness of the spammers.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I went from being a socially awkward virgin to having sex with my 25 year old manager. I also lasted nearly an hour my first time. All thanks to this forum.

I've avoided and read a lot of situations too. Once a girl is interested in me then there's absolutely no way I can't keep the ball rolling now.
 
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