"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SS Haters lol

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I still think the setting where a mod must approve a member's first post would be useful. A lot of spam and troll posts come from a member's very first post.
When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
Eventually you will also have the door wide open for moderators dictatorships.

Moderators will lead the forum based on their préférences (posting and posters material will be decided by them)

It will kill the democratics and accessibility of the forum.

Anyway, you need to deal with haters/negativity in a alpha matter.

1) ignore them
2) leave the négative people/places
3) have a sense of humour about it that will cut their legs and make them powerless.

Like in life.

Losers are to be avoided
Negativity to be kept far
Have a sense of humour because life is mysterious and complex, so you better laught at it
 

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When I first read this, I thought it was a really good idea.

But the more I think about it, a lot of newbies come in here and have no clue, and might ask some really naive questions that might be seen as trollish. They might get turned away without ever knowing why, and get discouraged without having the opportunity to stay and learn.
We got a LOT of post reports where a SS member alleges "troll" when it could be a troll, OR, it could also just as easily be a new member who really doesn't know and needs help. Anytime we think there is a slight chance it's the latter we don't intervene. It's a judgement call.
 

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I care zero about trolls/haters. I am a hater of spam, and this place is the low-hanging fruit for spammers and bots. The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person. I think that will be the inevitable end of all Internet forums, when it is impossible to tell who is human and who is not.
 

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The bots get better all the time at tricking us into thinking we are talking to a real person.
If you took some time to look at all the other forums that the spammers post the same posts on, Sosuave is the ONLY place where people actually engage in conversation.

To me, that says more of the gullibility (and desperateness) of SS'ers than the cleverness of the spammers.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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I went from being a socially awkward virgin to having sex with my 25 year old manager. I also lasted nearly an hour my first time. All thanks to this forum.

I've avoided and read a lot of situations too. Once a girl is interested in me then there's absolutely no way I can't keep the ball rolling now.
 
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