"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Potbelly

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hey do I need a spotter even if I work with dumbbells? It doesn't seem to make sense to have one since they can't grab the bar as there is no bar.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Potbelly said:
hey do I need a spotter even if I work with dumbbells? It doesn't seem to make sense to have one since they can't grab the bar as there is no bar.
No need for spotters on dumbbell lifts, unless you are doing dumbbell floor presses.
 

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dirtysanchez said:
No need for spotters on dumbbell lifts, unless you are doing dumbbell floor presses.
?? wanna clarify? what are floor presses?
 

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hmm I see. I do dumbbell bench presses instead. Why are floor presses better or is it just preference??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When I do DB presses, I usually don't need a spotter. My only problem is that while doing them, I have a problem getting the dumbbells in the initial position. I can easily use 40lb dumbbells for my chest if I am lying down and someone hands me the dumbbells, but if I am doing it alone, I have to use 35lber coz I find it hard to get it to the intial position. Any suggestions on how to do that? I usually keep them on my thighs and then lie down and start doing my exercises.
 

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Potbelly said:
hmm I see. I do dumbbell bench presses instead. Why are floor presses better or is it just preference??
I alternate between incline bench press, flat bench press and floor press as my Max Effort (ME) upper body lift. If you are weak at the middle and top of your bench press then it will definitely help improve both these areas. Taken directly from the link I mentioned previously:

"This one is a winner for many reasons:

It is a great lockout builder for the bench press.

It is great for those who have shoulder problems because of the limited range of motion and full shoulder stability (the floor is wider than a bench).

It is great for developing starting strength because of the pause and release at the bottom. You go from a static to dynamic contraction.

It is a great chest builder because most the work is done in the pec building zone of the dumbbell press."
 

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hmm I see. I think I will use the bench still. I too do incline bench presses, but I'll try the floor ones some day when I go to a real gym with clean floors.
 
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