"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Spinning plates

jimjam

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Gentlemen,

What's the most plates you've spun at one time? How do you keep track of them?

I had two going and i found myself confusing what i told one with what i told the other, conversations blending together, etc. I can see this erupting into a grand fiasco.

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mangotot

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Most I have ever spun at any time is 1. I am to change that to 1 per day starting this week.
 

Wraithe

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I haven't spun too many plates for any length of time, but one idea that comes to my mind is having a journal or using your phone to make a few notes after each date. Take some time to categorize your notes under each girl and review your notes before each date in the future. I plan on doing something along these lines when I get there.
 

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I think since i am just starting the most is 3 and than 2 fell off and i stoped to get away from Oneits
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Zarky

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Depending on definition of "plate," I'd have to say right now. I currently have 3 going and have since almost a year ago.

Unfortunately I'm getting kind of sick of it. I spend 4-5 nights a week with these chicks and the other 2-3 I'm working late. I really don't have any nights to myself.

This year I've not had sex with any new girls whereas I banged a dozen new ones last year. It's largely because chicks want to go out on the weekends and my weekends are always full. I never have a free Friday, Saturday or Sunday. Never.

I'm not sure what to do. I really like my MLTRs but damn I wish one of them lived far away and was a twice-a-month girl. I think two nearby girls and one far-away girl is best for me. Three girls nearby just becomes a chore because I like new puzzy every once in awhile and I haven't had any in nearly a year.

I take that back, I smoked meth with an ex a few weeks ago and banged her, but we last banged in 2012 so I wouldn't consider that "new."

Having said all that, I've been doing MLTRs continually since 2003 (with a short break in 2005 where I dated only one chick and realized it wasn't for me) and I'm completely comfortable with them. I can't imagine what it would be like to only date one chick.
 
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