"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Spinning plates

jimjam

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Gentlemen,

What's the most plates you've spun at one time? How do you keep track of them?

I had two going and i found myself confusing what i told one with what i told the other, conversations blending together, etc. I can see this erupting into a grand fiasco.

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mangotot

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Most I have ever spun at any time is 1. I am to change that to 1 per day starting this week.
 

Wraithe

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I haven't spun too many plates for any length of time, but one idea that comes to my mind is having a journal or using your phone to make a few notes after each date. Take some time to categorize your notes under each girl and review your notes before each date in the future. I plan on doing something along these lines when I get there.
 

rugby11

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I think since i am just starting the most is 3 and than 2 fell off and i stoped to get away from Oneits
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Zarky

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Depending on definition of "plate," I'd have to say right now. I currently have 3 going and have since almost a year ago.

Unfortunately I'm getting kind of sick of it. I spend 4-5 nights a week with these chicks and the other 2-3 I'm working late. I really don't have any nights to myself.

This year I've not had sex with any new girls whereas I banged a dozen new ones last year. It's largely because chicks want to go out on the weekends and my weekends are always full. I never have a free Friday, Saturday or Sunday. Never.

I'm not sure what to do. I really like my MLTRs but damn I wish one of them lived far away and was a twice-a-month girl. I think two nearby girls and one far-away girl is best for me. Three girls nearby just becomes a chore because I like new puzzy every once in awhile and I haven't had any in nearly a year.

I take that back, I smoked meth with an ex a few weeks ago and banged her, but we last banged in 2012 so I wouldn't consider that "new."

Having said all that, I've been doing MLTRs continually since 2003 (with a short break in 2005 where I dated only one chick and realized it wasn't for me) and I'm completely comfortable with them. I can't imagine what it would be like to only date one chick.
 
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