Spinning 3 plates is overwhelming

[LucianoM]

I have 3 plates that I spend weekends with, they usually come friday and leave Monday. So that means I see each one every 3 weeks. That isnt often enough to keep a girl happy and not risk losing her. Especially when you count the times I've had to cancel plans due to unexpected visit from another one, etc.
I cant even spend back-to-back weekends with one girl. None of them can see me as much as they want. Seems like trying to juggle all three will make me lose all three. How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

 

[LucianoM]

For context of the girls:
Girl A: 21yrs old brunette with banging body and very cute face. Likes daytrips and going clubbing. Very high energy.
Girl B: 22yr old blonde green eyes, thin body but nice perky ass. She's more calm,likes nights in at my apt not too much of a club girl but likes to drink.
Girl C: 24yr old brunette, tall and nice body gym rat. The most level headed of the 3, Doesn't drink or party too much but is still fun to hang out with.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I cant even spend back-to-back weekends with one girl. None of them can see me as much as they want. Seems like trying to juggle all three will make me lose all three. How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

That sounds like hell

 

[Chow Mein]

I’ve been doing this for a few years,

Priority girl gets 3 weekends a month, only weekends.
Second gets Wednesday, sometimes a day on the weekends.
Third gets a weekday every other week.

I do have women that are 5+ hours away, we meet up whenever it is convenient or if my travels allow me a slight detour. Or if she is begging to see me

It’s like a custody battle

 

[Chow Mein]

And no, you do not need to keep them all content.
You just need them to value you enough to follow your schedule.

 

[HaleyBaron]

As Chow said, stop thinking you need to make them happy. They are there to make you happy. This is why even when I spent one or more months away from a girl, I gave her a message to fvck and she was down. The girls can self manage happiness themselves.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Seems like trying to juggle all three will make me lose all three. How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

Easy... Lie and be manipulative. Also, dont forget to gaslight. That's how a lot of men keep multiple women. Otherwise it cannot be done. Just a tip, those that succeed in the long run juggling multiple women are usually psychopaths or sociopaths. If you aren't either, expect to fail either by giving up or the women start to leave.

when I was younger, I was in the same situation; but ultimately I had to leave the situation and do the one girl route. I didn't want to become a liar.

 

[HaleyBaron]

st a tip, those that succeed in the long run juggling multiple women are usually psychopaths or sociopaths.

Or are indifferent, which is the main trait of masculinity.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

3 was my max as well.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Or are indifferent, which is the main trait of masculinity.

Being indifferent to people (lack of empathy) is a sign of psychopathy. I dont think its a sign of masculinity.

masculinity to me means being strong, being able to lead, to persuade people to follow you, etc.. etc.. that doesn't seem related to being indifferent.

 

[DJ Novice]

Two is my maximum. And even then you need to lie, deceive, make up excuses, always have your phone on silent with notifications silenced etc. The logistics are always challenging.

It can mess with you emotionally if you really like one or both women more than just the bedroom activities. And you need to at least have some regard to their own emotional needs to keep them which can be exhausting. Your free time to do other things in your life becomes severely limited.

It’s the price you pay for variety. Having only one girlfriend is a much less stressful existence. But it’s also more boring once the new relationship phase is over.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Two is my maximum. And even then you need to lie, deceive, make up excuses, always have your phone on silent with notifications silenced etc. The logistics are always challenging..

The only way juggling several women at a time will work (and you are not a psychopath) is if the women are abnormal in some way - emotionally damaged, not intelligent, different morals (born into societies where polygamy is allowed), etc..

At the end of the day, not sure if finding and keeping these type of women are worth it.

besides, if ts just about sex, i say just find a brothel at that point. I think it will be healthier for ones mental health.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Being indifferent to people (lack of empathy) is a sign of psychopathy. I dont think its a sign of masculinity.

masculinity to me means being strong, being able to lead, to persuade people to follow you, etc.. etc.. that doesn't seem related to being indifferent.

Indifferent to women doesn't destroy any of the qualities you mentioned. It also doesn't mean absence of empathy. It means being able to choose the priorities in your life.

 

[Solomon]

I was spinning 3 plates last year with an occasional floater at this time last summer, the only reason it worked was because of time/distance and even then it lasted for a month at best. Because it became to much when Plate2 became super needy

Main Plate Lived 30 minutes away worked up to 70 hours a week--Would See her 1-2 times a week then 1-2 a month until she moved
Plate2 Was retired before 46 and lived 15 minutes away-would see once a week
Plate 3 was 21 and she lived 2.5 hours away-Would see every other weekend

The only reason it worked somewhat was that 1 plate lived super far and she would come to see me I never went to hers needless to say it didn't last long. Plate 2 was needy and the weakest link

Honestly I rather have 1 plate that I can see when convenient for my schedule or 2. Currently have 1 plate and also got a "Boomerang" girl I was messing with 4 years ago, she lives literally a mile from me, and is down to have some fun this Saturday, she's out of town until then.

I don't have the energy to keep up with plates I rather one solid plate and dabble with a floater

 

[Sega Genesis]

I can't even spend back-to-back weekends with one girl. None of them can see me as much as they want. Seems like trying to juggle all three will make me lose all three. How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

Not only this^ but I would imagine you're also texting each one in between the 'once every three weeks' weekend dates?

Sounds exhausting! Mentally. Emotionally?

I am not sure you want to listen to me as I'm female and have always been a 'one at a time' girl whether it lasts a week, month, year whatever. And date men who are same.

Quality over quantity.

But anyway...

Are there one (or two) that stand out?

Crazy notion lol but do you feel more 'connected' to one or two?

I think with three you're right, you risk overload, screwing up, burning out and losing all three.

 

[Solomon]

For context of the girls:
Girl A: 21yrs old brunette with banging body and very cute face. Likes daytrips and going clubbing. Very high energy.
Girl B: 22yr old blonde green eyes, thin body but nice perky ass. She's more calm,likes nights in at my apt not too much of a club girl but likes to drink.
Girl C: 24yr old brunette, tall and nice body gym rat. The most level headed of the 3, Doesn't drink or party too much but is still fun to hang out with.

Girl B sounds like a keeper a chill girl with a perky ass why not just choose and call it a day?

 

[Clockwerk50]

The most powerful dynamic in dating is when a woman feels completely free to leave — but chooses not to. You’re feeling overwhelmed because you’re treating these women like obligations to manage, like you are their boyfriend, rather than letting them feel free to walk away at any time. True power comes from not needing to control anyone. You’re overwhelmed because you’re acting like someone who needs them.

The point is, you should not care what these plates do. You shouldn’t need anything from them. Instead, you should draw them in by offering something so emotionally compelling that they choose you — over safety, over comfort, even over their own family. You can get away with more than what you think if your women emotionally and physically needs are satisfied by you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Seems simple. Stop spending the whole weekend with one girl and start spending a day/night with each of them.

 

[ValiantMale]

How not to worry about "losing" women.. : focus on banging them and don't worry about much else. If you can give them great sex, you will have great power over them. Women are controlled by sex.

Graet men, good men, well educated, well mannered, military heroes, social superstars, celebrities, athletes, rappers,---They've all been cheated on-- why? because a man who focuses on SEX and is Adept in his Sexual Powers.. and cares little about anything else, becomes a drug to a woman. It fulfills all her needs: 1)Pleasure 2) connection 3) Attention 4) Validates them 5) Makes them feel secure --- its all hormonal. After about 10-20 minutes of amazing sex a woman starts releasing hormones that she doesn't with the 5 minute boyfriend-- the 5 minute boyfriend can do all the foreplay he wants and those same hormones dont release.

Back before men became weak that's all they really cared about. All the other stuff was just the cherry on top. -- Remember, these aren't your GIRLFRIENDS.

 

[Drmuscular]

Plate theory is not about the quantity of girls, but to keep you in abundance. I personally just maintain one solid plate, then have other girls for hookups only and maybe for backup.

If you cant reliably be with these girls enough, drop one or pull back attention and see how you manage with two, you will lose everything if you keep it up like this.