"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BORS 32.5 plates. go up to 35's

w-pulls on nuetral bars. 60x5. Do 6 reps next time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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deadlifts:
warm up
295x1

Next time, do 285x5+. LEAD WITH THE SHOULDERS. Don't forget knee pads.

sp 40x5

reverse hypers: do 40 next time.

glut hams: do 35's for first set.

pull downs
 

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bor's: 35'sx8. Go up to 40's next time.

Squats:

150x10
Do 155x10 next time
Keep form totally perfect. Bar over heels. Pump quads, straighten knees. Go straight up. Do first 5, then one at a time from there. Don't think about other reps and resting untill you do one more.

Reverse hypers:
got up to 45. Try 60 next time.

glut hams:
warm up properly.
 

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deadlifts:

warms
290x5
290x4
-lead w/shoulders
-get verticle asap
-accelerate after knees

reverse hypers: 50
try 55 next time
 

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squats

Bors: 37.5'sx8, personal best

reverse hypers: 60 or 65, either way personal best

incline db press: 50's

gluham raise

those pull downs: do 70-90 range next time
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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light squats+ deads

Bor's 40's x8. Do 42.5's on each side.

incline db press:50'sx8

reverse hypers
 

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last friday: deads: 285x5. do 290 this friday

today:
squats: 135x5
glut hams: start at 35's next time
r-hypers: go up to 40 next time.

bench: 135x5
row: next time do a very controlled 105.
 

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deads: Get better intuition when you grip is going to give out. Increase weight by atleast 20 lbs each time.
290x3.
Pull bar into you.

Bors

reverse hypers
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squats: 140x5, w/flaws in form. 120x10 atg.
try 130x10 next time. Perfect form. Do one at time. Set up safty bars. Remember your two inspirations. When it gets hard, harden body and rise.

ghr's
 

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w-pulls: 55x7. 45x6.
dbbench: 135x5
bors: 95-115
dbsp: 50'sx1. 42'x4.
tbarrow: 90x7
Sprint: next time, after upperbody workouts, start all the way at the ends.
 

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Deadlift: 295x5 Personal best. Keep posture straight as possible all times and keep pulling back. Do these fast. Try to go up only.
w-pulls: go up to 65 next time.
sp: 45x3. 40x5. Try 45x5. Do these fast.
 

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squats: 140x6. Go up fast. Utalize quads asap. Don't to go wide. Toes forward.
BOR: perfect form 85x6. Try 95x10 next time. Bend knees to keep nuetral arche. Torso. End with oh squats
DBIBB: 52.5'sx7. Do 55's next time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Deadlifts: 300x5. Personal best. Go up fast and controlled. Keep same nuetral arche each time.

sp: 45x4.

w-pulls: 60x8. 60x4

BOR/PROW: 25's. Do 25's next time too. Keep hips still. Accelerate. Rounch back initially, arch/squeeze shoulder blades at top.
 

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spesmilitis said:
Deadlifts: 300x5. Personal best. Go up fast and controlled. Keep same nuetral arche each time.

sp: 45x4.

w-pulls: 60x8. 60x4

BOR/PROW: 25's. Do 25's next time too. Keep hips still. Accelerate. Rounch back initially, arch/squeeze shoulder blades at top.
Add weight every workout, even if it's only 1 pound.

How did the Pendlay Rows feel?
 

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stronglifts said:
Add weight every workout, even if it's only 1 pound.

How did the Pendlay Rows feel?
I defiantly feel the effectiveness. Right now my flexability is not quite there yet, so the position is still a little uncomfortable. Just recently I am able to get my torso parallel to the ground with the nuetral arche still in my back. Still have some issues with keeping my hips still, rounding the back, and squezing the shoulder blades together at the end. I hoping to perfect by my next work out.

The least I can increment the bar is 5 lbs (2 2.5 plates on each side), but I think I will increment it by that anyways.

Thanks for all the hours you are putting into your advice and your blog. Your passion towards lifting has positively affected my progress.
 

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Looking good with the deads spes. You have made big weight increases with it over the past few months if I am reading correctly.

You should post up an update of your lifts, like what they were 6 months ago and what they are now. I'd be interested to see it instead off over trying to decipher 6 months worth of posts heh.

Your squats don't seem to have been doing as well, is there a reason for this? I read something about you don't want to go hard on them for martial art practice, but there so many posts and circumstances can change, you could have sustained an injury to them for all I know.

Hopefully you are still warming up following the IA post, when was your last break from weights?

Just a couple of questions cause I'm intrigued heh, later.
 

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spesmilitis said:
I defiantly feel the effectiveness. Right now my flexability is not quite there yet, so the position is still a little uncomfortable. Just recently I am able to get my torso parallel to the ground with the nuetral arche still in my back. Still have some issues with keeping my hips still, rounding the back, and squezing the shoulder blades together at the end. I hoping to perfect by my next work out.

The least I can increment the bar is 5 lbs (2 2.5 plates on each side), but I think I will increment it by that anyways.

Thanks for all the hours you are putting into your advice and your blog. Your passion towards lifting has positively affected my progress.
Thanks for the motivating words on the blog. Reading these kind of posts keeps me going.

Back to the pendlay row:
-i'll be posting an exercise to increase flexiblity in the upperback next monday, video included of course
-really focus on the technique, if necessary lower the weight until you get it

Good luck.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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