"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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BORS 32.5 plates. go up to 35's

w-pulls on nuetral bars. 60x5. Do 6 reps next time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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deadlifts:
warm up
295x1

Next time, do 285x5+. LEAD WITH THE SHOULDERS. Don't forget knee pads.

sp 40x5

reverse hypers: do 40 next time.

glut hams: do 35's for first set.

pull downs
 

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bor's: 35'sx8. Go up to 40's next time.

Squats:

150x10
Do 155x10 next time
Keep form totally perfect. Bar over heels. Pump quads, straighten knees. Go straight up. Do first 5, then one at a time from there. Don't think about other reps and resting untill you do one more.

Reverse hypers:
got up to 45. Try 60 next time.

glut hams:
warm up properly.
 

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deadlifts:

warms
290x5
290x4
-lead w/shoulders
-get verticle asap
-accelerate after knees

reverse hypers: 50
try 55 next time
 

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squats

Bors: 37.5'sx8, personal best

reverse hypers: 60 or 65, either way personal best

incline db press: 50's

gluham raise

those pull downs: do 70-90 range next time
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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light squats+ deads

Bor's 40's x8. Do 42.5's on each side.

incline db press:50'sx8

reverse hypers
 

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last friday: deads: 285x5. do 290 this friday

today:
squats: 135x5
glut hams: start at 35's next time
r-hypers: go up to 40 next time.

bench: 135x5
row: next time do a very controlled 105.
 

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deads: Get better intuition when you grip is going to give out. Increase weight by atleast 20 lbs each time.
290x3.
Pull bar into you.

Bors

reverse hypers
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squats: 140x5, w/flaws in form. 120x10 atg.
try 130x10 next time. Perfect form. Do one at time. Set up safty bars. Remember your two inspirations. When it gets hard, harden body and rise.

ghr's
 

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w-pulls: 55x7. 45x6.
dbbench: 135x5
bors: 95-115
dbsp: 50'sx1. 42'x4.
tbarrow: 90x7
Sprint: next time, after upperbody workouts, start all the way at the ends.
 

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Deadlift: 295x5 Personal best. Keep posture straight as possible all times and keep pulling back. Do these fast. Try to go up only.
w-pulls: go up to 65 next time.
sp: 45x3. 40x5. Try 45x5. Do these fast.
 

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squats: 140x6. Go up fast. Utalize quads asap. Don't to go wide. Toes forward.
BOR: perfect form 85x6. Try 95x10 next time. Bend knees to keep nuetral arche. Torso. End with oh squats
DBIBB: 52.5'sx7. Do 55's next time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Deadlifts: 300x5. Personal best. Go up fast and controlled. Keep same nuetral arche each time.

sp: 45x4.

w-pulls: 60x8. 60x4

BOR/PROW: 25's. Do 25's next time too. Keep hips still. Accelerate. Rounch back initially, arch/squeeze shoulder blades at top.
 

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spesmilitis said:
Deadlifts: 300x5. Personal best. Go up fast and controlled. Keep same nuetral arche each time.

sp: 45x4.

w-pulls: 60x8. 60x4

BOR/PROW: 25's. Do 25's next time too. Keep hips still. Accelerate. Rounch back initially, arch/squeeze shoulder blades at top.
Add weight every workout, even if it's only 1 pound.

How did the Pendlay Rows feel?
 

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stronglifts said:
Add weight every workout, even if it's only 1 pound.

How did the Pendlay Rows feel?
I defiantly feel the effectiveness. Right now my flexability is not quite there yet, so the position is still a little uncomfortable. Just recently I am able to get my torso parallel to the ground with the nuetral arche still in my back. Still have some issues with keeping my hips still, rounding the back, and squezing the shoulder blades together at the end. I hoping to perfect by my next work out.

The least I can increment the bar is 5 lbs (2 2.5 plates on each side), but I think I will increment it by that anyways.

Thanks for all the hours you are putting into your advice and your blog. Your passion towards lifting has positively affected my progress.
 

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Looking good with the deads spes. You have made big weight increases with it over the past few months if I am reading correctly.

You should post up an update of your lifts, like what they were 6 months ago and what they are now. I'd be interested to see it instead off over trying to decipher 6 months worth of posts heh.

Your squats don't seem to have been doing as well, is there a reason for this? I read something about you don't want to go hard on them for martial art practice, but there so many posts and circumstances can change, you could have sustained an injury to them for all I know.

Hopefully you are still warming up following the IA post, when was your last break from weights?

Just a couple of questions cause I'm intrigued heh, later.
 

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spesmilitis said:
I defiantly feel the effectiveness. Right now my flexability is not quite there yet, so the position is still a little uncomfortable. Just recently I am able to get my torso parallel to the ground with the nuetral arche still in my back. Still have some issues with keeping my hips still, rounding the back, and squezing the shoulder blades together at the end. I hoping to perfect by my next work out.

The least I can increment the bar is 5 lbs (2 2.5 plates on each side), but I think I will increment it by that anyways.

Thanks for all the hours you are putting into your advice and your blog. Your passion towards lifting has positively affected my progress.
Thanks for the motivating words on the blog. Reading these kind of posts keeps me going.

Back to the pendlay row:
-i'll be posting an exercise to increase flexiblity in the upperback next monday, video included of course
-really focus on the technique, if necessary lower the weight until you get it

Good luck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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