"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"spending quality time together"

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I often hear that only spending quality time together will help not make the relationship boring (and Ive seen ppl break up because they ended up 'being friends' and stuff like that pretty often).

How do you do that, tho? I mean what is quality time after all? If you go to your g/f's house and have sex is that quality time?:D
and only going to her house to watch tv everyday but not doing anything sexual is not "quality" time? Does spending quality time together pretty much equal just not spending too much time together?

cause I feel like things gonna be more exciting and Ill appreciate her more if I see her like 3 or 4 days a week not every day. cause ive learned in life that u appreciate things way more if you dont get them too often (and I dont really consider this playing mind tricks or games on the girl, because Im talking about myself as much as about her..I'll appreciate her more if I see her less.."less is more").

So anyways what do u guys exactly mean by quality time?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think when a girl says this, the guy confuses quality time with quantity time. That is the big killer. Also if a girl says this, I think she is losing the attraction towards the guy.
 

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You got me wrong. I was talking about guys on this forum giving the advice of only spending 'quality time' together in order for the girl not to get bored with u. And I think that seems like a good idea..
 

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quality time..having fun.

not sitting on a couch or in the same movie theatre week after week.

quality time=

comedy club, sporting event, ice rink, city park, zoo, art museum...anything outdoors
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
quality time..having fun.

not sitting on a couch or in the same movie theatre week after week.

quality time=

comedy club, sporting event, ice rink, city park, zoo, art museum...anything outdoors
Like he said, but the most simple way to put it:

Doing Things together!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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