"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"spending quality time together"

madgame

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I often hear that only spending quality time together will help not make the relationship boring (and Ive seen ppl break up because they ended up 'being friends' and stuff like that pretty often).

How do you do that, tho? I mean what is quality time after all? If you go to your g/f's house and have sex is that quality time?:D
and only going to her house to watch tv everyday but not doing anything sexual is not "quality" time? Does spending quality time together pretty much equal just not spending too much time together?

cause I feel like things gonna be more exciting and Ill appreciate her more if I see her like 3 or 4 days a week not every day. cause ive learned in life that u appreciate things way more if you dont get them too often (and I dont really consider this playing mind tricks or games on the girl, because Im talking about myself as much as about her..I'll appreciate her more if I see her less.."less is more").

So anyways what do u guys exactly mean by quality time?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think when a girl says this, the guy confuses quality time with quantity time. That is the big killer. Also if a girl says this, I think she is losing the attraction towards the guy.
 

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You got me wrong. I was talking about guys on this forum giving the advice of only spending 'quality time' together in order for the girl not to get bored with u. And I think that seems like a good idea..
 

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quality time..having fun.

not sitting on a couch or in the same movie theatre week after week.

quality time=

comedy club, sporting event, ice rink, city park, zoo, art museum...anything outdoors
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
quality time..having fun.

not sitting on a couch or in the same movie theatre week after week.

quality time=

comedy club, sporting event, ice rink, city park, zoo, art museum...anything outdoors
Like he said, but the most simple way to put it:

Doing Things together!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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