Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Speer's Edge: Begining 12 Do's & Dont's

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1. Don't be too obsessive. If the girl doesn't call, they might have been too busy to answer. Leaving 5 voice mails just makes you appear desperate.

2. Don't move too quickly. It could cause a pipi le pew situation (you persue and the other runs away as fast as they can).

3. Don't talk too much about your ex's. And if you do, don't say anything disparaging. Treat it as a new relationship so empty your luggage at the door.

4. Be courteous. Please and thank you go a long way.

5. Be flexible. If you have to cancel, reschedule unless you really didn't want to go out with the girl to begin with.

6. Guys, I hate to say it, but bring cash and/or plastic to the date. If the woman wants to go dutch great, but expect to pay on the first date atleast.

7. Do open her doors. Hold out your hand if you have a really big car/truck and if she has a skirt and heels, etc. Little things go a long way.

8. Do compliment the other person and show interest.

9. Do listen to your date. Shut up about yourself for a few minutes to hear what they have to say. (I have to remind myself of this one personally).

10. Don't drink too much. Impaired judgment always follows.

11. Don't look too hard for faults in the other person. You'll always find something to sabotage the next relationship. You've been hurt before so you don't want to set yourself up to have it happen again.

12. Don't make plans too quickly (i.e. don't start naming your future kids on the second date).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A thread on date etiquette? I think a lot of this stuff is common sense.

I was expecting a bit more from the title. Something about increasing or solidifying attraction.
 

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It's alsways good to be reminded now and then, and common sense is actually very uncommon, don't you think?
 

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How does all this politeness square with the "women want jerks" concept?
Or could it be that women really don't want jerks?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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woman don't want jerks damnit, they want people that have the confidence and take no sh1t attitude jerks have. Theres a huge difference. Of course there is the odd exception though.
 

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search1ng said:
woman don't want jerks damnit, they want people that have the confidence and take no sh1t attitude jerks have. Theres a huge difference. Of course there is the odd exception though.
Very true search1ng,

Women normally want a guy that can stay in his frame and have the confidence to be themselves. Most guys think being themselves without confirming to the girl is being a jerk or assh0le but its not.

Being a gentleman and having manors goes along way. This idea of being a jerk on purpose will get you laid is false. Not only will it ruin possible long lasting relationships but it will also make you incongruent if that is not your typical behavior.

Be yourself and keep this common and simple guidelines for continued success. Also always remember the biggest influence in our life is the mass media. So you can see what our society expects.

Peace out,
 

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search1ng said:
woman don't want jerks damnit, they want people that have the confidence and take no sh1t attitude jerks have. Theres a huge difference. Of course there is the odd exception though.
women want jerks because they are jerks, look at what they did

get creeped out when I say hello
want only the hot guy
don't show up for dates freequently
stop responding to mesages and disappear
lie lie lie lie lie lie esecially about having a boyfriend
have her boyfriend beat me up, it happened to me
avoid virgins
play games and jerk you around
 

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18. Don't! If you plan on busting in her mouth, remember; Protein supplements can make your goo taste bad for her. Edit: Alcohol too.
lol screw that, thats the best part of a bj
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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