Desdinova
Master Don Juan
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I don't need a Chia Pet. I have weeds growing between the cracks on my Chia Patio.What the hell is a Chia Pet????? who the hell would want that??
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't need a Chia Pet. I have weeds growing between the cracks on my Chia Patio.What the hell is a Chia Pet????? who the hell would want that??
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I did eye-q and it sucks balls.Originally posted by Jason#4
anyone familiar with speed reading?
Jason,Originally posted by Jason#4
anyone familiar with speed reading?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hey did you build those skills yourself or have you pretty much been able to do this all your life?Originally posted by MVPlaya
Jason,
I actually speed read and have a really strong memory (I've taken memory tests and I score in the 98th percentile), speed-reading a physics book won't help you, even with strong memory. The main problem is that when you do physics problems, you need to know where everything fits, you need to instinctually know how to solve the formulas, and you need to have tested all angles of a problem beforehand. If you memorize all the formulas , see a few sample problems, and then take the test, you're going to have major problems applying your knowledge. Remember, there's a time-limit to your physics exam. Speed-reading is generally useful for novels, like was stated earlier, for anything deeper, like physics or philosophy, you need to sit down and read it slowly. Read it slowly not because you can't memorize it or process it, but because each line in these texts is highly incomplete and requires you to reapply your knowledge unto it constantly and ponder all the possible variations, speed reading is good for absorbing material, not challenging it, and if you want to pass that physics final, you need to learn to challenge formulas.
So, my advice: you have a week left for your final, start reading and doing the problems.
-MV
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Shut the **** up.Originally posted by seize_the_pattern
sorry to hear that
so does your post by the way
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Groovy, what kind of selfhelp stuff is sticking with you kindof ?Originally posted by fuzzx
I only have to spent about 15 to 20 minutes a day on them. I practiced on every book after though, novels, textbooks, everything. My favorite reads are self help stuff though.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.