Desdinova
Master Don Juan
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I don't need a Chia Pet. I have weeds growing between the cracks on my Chia Patio.What the hell is a Chia Pet????? who the hell would want that??
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't need a Chia Pet. I have weeds growing between the cracks on my Chia Patio.What the hell is a Chia Pet????? who the hell would want that??
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I did eye-q and it sucks balls.Originally posted by Jason#4
anyone familiar with speed reading?
Jason,Originally posted by Jason#4
anyone familiar with speed reading?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hey did you build those skills yourself or have you pretty much been able to do this all your life?Originally posted by MVPlaya
Jason,
I actually speed read and have a really strong memory (I've taken memory tests and I score in the 98th percentile), speed-reading a physics book won't help you, even with strong memory. The main problem is that when you do physics problems, you need to know where everything fits, you need to instinctually know how to solve the formulas, and you need to have tested all angles of a problem beforehand. If you memorize all the formulas , see a few sample problems, and then take the test, you're going to have major problems applying your knowledge. Remember, there's a time-limit to your physics exam. Speed-reading is generally useful for novels, like was stated earlier, for anything deeper, like physics or philosophy, you need to sit down and read it slowly. Read it slowly not because you can't memorize it or process it, but because each line in these texts is highly incomplete and requires you to reapply your knowledge unto it constantly and ponder all the possible variations, speed reading is good for absorbing material, not challenging it, and if you want to pass that physics final, you need to learn to challenge formulas.
So, my advice: you have a week left for your final, start reading and doing the problems.
-MV
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Shut the **** up.Originally posted by seize_the_pattern
sorry to hear that
so does your post by the way
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Groovy, what kind of selfhelp stuff is sticking with you kindof ?Originally posted by fuzzx
I only have to spent about 15 to 20 minutes a day on them. I practiced on every book after though, novels, textbooks, everything. My favorite reads are self help stuff though.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.