"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Speed Dating

SharpGame

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I signed up for a speed dating event. I'll only have 5-7 minutes to hook these girls. What should I try (DHV, ****y/funny, push/pull, IOI, comfort building, etc) in this short time frame and in what amounts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Confident/funny all the way, you won't have enough time to do any of the others effectively. Make a good lasting impression.
 

decades

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I don't have time for speed dating.
 

reset

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bluetooth with visual feed.
 

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Haha, that's what we need, though: a DJ android. We wire him up and run him from the forum. He *must* do whatever the group decides. This could turn AFC's into DJ's in no time. How awesome would that be?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just bring up some 80s reference and you'll be fine.

so say something like... "i have a question for you. to this day I still don't get the whole 'wheres the beef?' thing. what the heck was that about?"

or "how do they get the caramel in a caramilk bar? Im going to die never figuring that out i think."

or "tell me honestly, don't you think it was a bit odd that a rich white guy adopted two black kids and they lived in a penthouse in new york?"

notice also how those things have slight sexual intonations to them

wheres the beef (ie. in my pants)
get the caramel in the caramilk bar (squirt liquid inside of something)
white guy with 2 black kids (ummm, ok, this one, while funny, doesn't work as well).
 

thedeparted

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joekerr31 said:
just bring up some 80s reference and you'll be fine.

so say something like... "i have a question for you. to this day I still don't get the whole 'wheres the beef?' thing. what the heck was that about?"

or "how do they get the caramel in a caramilk bar? Im going to die never figuring that out i think."

or "tell me honestly, don't you think it was a bit odd that a rich white guy adopted two black kids and they lived in a penthouse in new york?"

notice also how those things have slight sexual intonations to them

wheres the beef (ie. in my pants)
get the caramel in the caramilk bar (squirt liquid inside of something)
white guy with 2 black kids (ummm, ok, this one, while funny, doesn't work as well).
Fvcking hilarious! :cheer:
 

Mr. Me

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Ditto F'd, and just keep them talking about themselves.
 

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I just wanted to thank you for the advice and give an update on this. I went with ****y/funny all the way. Out of the six girls I circled, all six of them circled me as well. That means that at least six girls were impressed by me. It was a fun time.

I will say though, be careful not to drink too much at these things. Some of the girls I picked looked quite different when I actually went out with them. :nervous:
 

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persistent exaction said:
I don't have time for speed dating.
:D

Get my course "Speed Dating for Speed Daters: Time Management For Busy Speedaters".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SharpGame said:
I signed up for a speed dating event. I'll only have 5-7 minutes to hook these girls. What should I try (DHV, ****y/funny, push/pull, IOI, comfort building, etc) in this short time frame and in what amounts?
Out of curiosity, where was this event and who facilitated it? I've seen "hurry date" on the internet and thought about trying it out. I live in Baton Rouge, LA and I have yet to find a bar or club that hosts one. How much was the fee? Was there a strict age category that you were allowed to participate in? I am 35 but see myself dating a girl in her mid to late twenties.

Just curious.
 

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h_roberts said:
Out of curiosity, where was this event and who facilitated it? I've seen "hurry date" on the internet and thought about trying it out. I live in Baton Rouge, LA and I have yet to find a bar or club that hosts one. How much was the fee? Was there a strict age category that you were allowed to participate in? I am 35 but see myself dating a girl in her mid to late twenties.

Just curious.
Cupid.com runs them too. I think they have Louisiana events.
 

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The one I was in was put on by the Jaycees. It was $25 for 5 minutes with each girl, plus a couple breaks. There were 20 girls. It took quite a while to get through them all. There were two age brackets, 34 - 47 and 24 - 37. If you were 34-37 you could choose which group you wanted to be in.
 
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