"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Speed Dating

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I signed up for a speed dating event. I'll only have 5-7 minutes to hook these girls. What should I try (DHV, ****y/funny, push/pull, IOI, comfort building, etc) in this short time frame and in what amounts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Confident/funny all the way, you won't have enough time to do any of the others effectively. Make a good lasting impression.
 

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I don't have time for speed dating.
 

reset

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bluetooth with visual feed.
 

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Haha, that's what we need, though: a DJ android. We wire him up and run him from the forum. He *must* do whatever the group decides. This could turn AFC's into DJ's in no time. How awesome would that be?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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just bring up some 80s reference and you'll be fine.

so say something like... "i have a question for you. to this day I still don't get the whole 'wheres the beef?' thing. what the heck was that about?"

or "how do they get the caramel in a caramilk bar? Im going to die never figuring that out i think."

or "tell me honestly, don't you think it was a bit odd that a rich white guy adopted two black kids and they lived in a penthouse in new york?"

notice also how those things have slight sexual intonations to them

wheres the beef (ie. in my pants)
get the caramel in the caramilk bar (squirt liquid inside of something)
white guy with 2 black kids (ummm, ok, this one, while funny, doesn't work as well).
 

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joekerr31 said:
just bring up some 80s reference and you'll be fine.

so say something like... "i have a question for you. to this day I still don't get the whole 'wheres the beef?' thing. what the heck was that about?"

or "how do they get the caramel in a caramilk bar? Im going to die never figuring that out i think."

or "tell me honestly, don't you think it was a bit odd that a rich white guy adopted two black kids and they lived in a penthouse in new york?"

notice also how those things have slight sexual intonations to them

wheres the beef (ie. in my pants)
get the caramel in the caramilk bar (squirt liquid inside of something)
white guy with 2 black kids (ummm, ok, this one, while funny, doesn't work as well).
Fvcking hilarious! :cheer:
 

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Ditto F'd, and just keep them talking about themselves.
 

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I just wanted to thank you for the advice and give an update on this. I went with ****y/funny all the way. Out of the six girls I circled, all six of them circled me as well. That means that at least six girls were impressed by me. It was a fun time.

I will say though, be careful not to drink too much at these things. Some of the girls I picked looked quite different when I actually went out with them. :nervous:
 

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persistent exaction said:
I don't have time for speed dating.
:D

Get my course "Speed Dating for Speed Daters: Time Management For Busy Speedaters".
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SharpGame said:
I signed up for a speed dating event. I'll only have 5-7 minutes to hook these girls. What should I try (DHV, ****y/funny, push/pull, IOI, comfort building, etc) in this short time frame and in what amounts?
Out of curiosity, where was this event and who facilitated it? I've seen "hurry date" on the internet and thought about trying it out. I live in Baton Rouge, LA and I have yet to find a bar or club that hosts one. How much was the fee? Was there a strict age category that you were allowed to participate in? I am 35 but see myself dating a girl in her mid to late twenties.

Just curious.
 

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h_roberts said:
Out of curiosity, where was this event and who facilitated it? I've seen "hurry date" on the internet and thought about trying it out. I live in Baton Rouge, LA and I have yet to find a bar or club that hosts one. How much was the fee? Was there a strict age category that you were allowed to participate in? I am 35 but see myself dating a girl in her mid to late twenties.

Just curious.
Cupid.com runs them too. I think they have Louisiana events.
 

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The one I was in was put on by the Jaycees. It was $25 for 5 minutes with each girl, plus a couple breaks. There were 20 girls. It took quite a while to get through them all. There were two age brackets, 34 - 47 and 24 - 37. If you were 34-37 you could choose which group you wanted to be in.
 
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