You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Quality guys (i.e. players and alphas) don't hang at speed dating events, if anything they're at a foam party or club. Women know thismr. kennedy said:But 90% of the guys women meet are either dorks/douches and the other 10% are players. Believe it or not, women have a hard time meeting quality guys.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
:crackup: :crackup:casaanova said:Quality guys (i.e. players and alphas)
Quality guys definitely doesn't equal players. And not all alphas are quality.casaanova said:Quality guys (i.e. players and alphas) don't hang at speed dating events, if anything they're at a foam party or club. Women know this
Speed dating = I'm looking for a "nice" husband to wife me up before it's too late