"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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schttrj

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You guys should be familiar with me by now, anyways I am Ronny aka schttrj. well, straight to the point, I am financially very weak and not to speak of a owned apartment, I don't have a bike even. I live in a paying guest house or on a rental. bad condition. but I dress good and look good and smell good. But, I face teh problem because most of the girls here ask "what do you do?", "where do you live?" and so on....

How do you guys recommend me to go about it? golddiggers are not good bets for me I think, but I would like to become a DJ who can pull any chick.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Porky04

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hmm, try and remember its not you that they are attracted to. Its the feeling you supply when you are around them.

If you get a girls number, theres no need to tell her you live in a lacking accomodation. And if she is intrested in you, then a shack isnt going to really change a thing
 
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I.A.F.Y.B.

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I would advise you get your life together before you worry too much about getting women. Get a job, a place, and a car. However you do it just do it.

Or like everywomanshero said; "lie"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I lived on my friend's couch for six months and still pulled girls to it. It's really ****ing hard, but it's possible. No car, no room, no belongings -- just some clothes and my charm.

You should work on getting your life in order, you'll see your results improve immediately. Not because chicks like a guy with a nice place or with money, but because YOU will feel so much better about yourself. Simply removing the stress itself can transform your results overnight.

But if you want to sarge anyway, here are the things that helped me:
1. Frame your lack of job/house as a transition. Focus on your goals and ambitions, not what you have now.
2. Try to go back to HER place first.
3. Don't lie and don't EVER feel insecure about your lifestyle, even if you are. Hide it. A man who is ashamed of his lifestyle is the most unattractive thing you can be.

Hope this helps.
 
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