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[people again]

hey all. well, i have a GF now woo: ), but i need some advice. i recently found out that she has a lot of family/emotional problems. dont tell me to next her, b/c i REALLY like everything else about her. anyway, she has VERY low self asteem. how do i treat this? i dont want to be a therapist, but i dont want to be blatantly mean. how can i act around her that is not AFCish, but wont make me out to be evil? what can i do so that i dont become her "therapist", and earn me an eventual entrance into the friendzone? thanks for all the help!

 

[shydude]

Congrats on getting a girlfriend. And hmmmm.. Well having a girlfriend is all about fun. U should never get into her porblems, in another words mind ur own business. U dont need any problems! But putting ALL thats away for a while, u should talk about it!! Talk with her about the problems she has and how u both can fix it! Hug her more often and show her that u really care. But if nothing changes just drop it. Good luck

 

[Fender]

If someone has low self esteem, you're not gonna change that overnight.

I can't really offer any advice on how to behave around her. But here is the NUMBER ONE rule of councelling:

"Never ever ever EVER give her direct advice/suggestions no matter how obvious it may seem."

All solutions must come out of her own mouth.

G'luck and remeber to have fun!

 

[Amir0n]

i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing ....

i need some help to i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips...

 

[Muphaser]

i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing ....

i need some help to i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips...

Yea, organise your writing a bit better, and sloooow down bro

just hang out with her, nothing wrong with that

 

[Amir0n]

i never used forems and if i typed somthing wrong i'm from holland but what i wanted to ask is: i dont know how long that she is going to be with her current boyfriend... and i dont like to be powerless... i'm not a real player and i dont realy care... if i want a girl ll get here put i'v never bin in this postion... and if you see here you get a crush in seconds... she likes me but more like friends... and she dont want to do **** with me because she likes him... i understand but dont like it so any tips to get the 2 to break up...

 

[people again]

thanks for the help guys. if you have a different problem, could you please post it in a seperate thread. thanks.