Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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hey all. well, i have a GF now :)woo: ), but i need some advice. i recently found out that she has a lot of family/emotional problems. dont tell me to next her, b/c i REALLY like everything else about her. anyway, she has VERY low self asteem. how do i treat this? i dont want to be a therapist, but i dont want to be blatantly mean. how can i act around her that is not AFCish, but wont make me out to be evil? what can i do so that i dont become her "therapist", and earn me an eventual entrance into the friendzone? thanks for all the help!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Congrats on getting a girlfriend. And hmmmm.. Well having a girlfriend is all about fun. U should never get into her porblems, in another words mind ur own business. U dont need any problems! But putting ALL thats away for a while, u should talk about it!! Talk with her about the problems she has and how u both can fix it! Hug her more often and show her that u really care. But if nothing changes just drop it. Good luck
 
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If someone has low self esteem, you're not gonna change that overnight.

I can't really offer any advice on how to behave around her. But here is the NUMBER ONE rule of councelling:

"Never ever ever EVER give her direct advice/suggestions no matter how obvious it may seem."

All solutions must come out of her own mouth.

G'luck and remeber to have fun!
 
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i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing :cool: ....

i need some help to :p i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips... :whistle:
 
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Amir0n said:
i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing :cool: ....

i need some help to :p i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips... :whistle:
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Yea, organise your writing a bit better, and sloooow down bro

just hang out with her, nothing wrong with that
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i never used forems and if i typed somthing wrong i'm from holland but what i wanted to ask is: i dont know how long that she is going to be with her current boyfriend... and i dont like to be powerless... i'm not a real player and i dont realy care... if i want a girl ll get here put i'v never bin in this postion... and if you see here you get a crush in seconds... she likes me but more like friends... and she dont want to do **** with me because she likes him... i understand but dont like it :D so any tips to get the 2 to break up...
 
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thanks for the help guys. if you have a different problem, could you please post it in a seperate thread. thanks.
 
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