"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hey all. well, i have a GF now :)woo: ), but i need some advice. i recently found out that she has a lot of family/emotional problems. dont tell me to next her, b/c i REALLY like everything else about her. anyway, she has VERY low self asteem. how do i treat this? i dont want to be a therapist, but i dont want to be blatantly mean. how can i act around her that is not AFCish, but wont make me out to be evil? what can i do so that i dont become her "therapist", and earn me an eventual entrance into the friendzone? thanks for all the help!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Congrats on getting a girlfriend. And hmmmm.. Well having a girlfriend is all about fun. U should never get into her porblems, in another words mind ur own business. U dont need any problems! But putting ALL thats away for a while, u should talk about it!! Talk with her about the problems she has and how u both can fix it! Hug her more often and show her that u really care. But if nothing changes just drop it. Good luck
 
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If someone has low self esteem, you're not gonna change that overnight.

I can't really offer any advice on how to behave around her. But here is the NUMBER ONE rule of councelling:

"Never ever ever EVER give her direct advice/suggestions no matter how obvious it may seem."

All solutions must come out of her own mouth.

G'luck and remeber to have fun!
 
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i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing :cool: ....

i need some help to :p i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips... :whistle:
 
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Amir0n said:
i would do it like this... if you get in a position that you have to talk about it... that do what told above... but this is wath i would prefer to do is to say you know i love you or like you and i wanna make as much fun as possilble... go do somthing or kittel her and go to sleep or somthing :cool: ....

i need some help to :p i got girls following me... its fun but there is one girl i would like to be with... her sister is a model and she looks alot like her... but she also has a low self asteam... but ofcourse she has a boy freind... and i dont like to have to wait till the break up any tips... :whistle:
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Yea, organise your writing a bit better, and sloooow down bro

just hang out with her, nothing wrong with that
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i never used forems and if i typed somthing wrong i'm from holland but what i wanted to ask is: i dont know how long that she is going to be with her current boyfriend... and i dont like to be powerless... i'm not a real player and i dont realy care... if i want a girl ll get here put i'v never bin in this postion... and if you see here you get a crush in seconds... she likes me but more like friends... and she dont want to do **** with me because she likes him... i understand but dont like it :D so any tips to get the 2 to break up...
 
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thanks for the help guys. if you have a different problem, could you please post it in a seperate thread. thanks.
 
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