"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
blueangle u seem to be ignoring me...whys that, i just love chinese..i mean tai..women, come on email me or something [email protected]......(now this is how we are to act in her eyes, well i beet i dont get an email guys, but um thanks for the advice gurl)Originally posted by blueangel83
I'm back!
I don't really have much time to explain anything to you rejects.
All I can say is, Mind Over Matter, you sound like a moron. You might want to re-read what you typed and see where you contradict yourself.
Anybody else who (for some reason) dislike women on this board is probably gay.
Good Night!
Originally posted by MindOverMatter
Wow! I must have hit a sensitive spot, getting pretty defensive with the insults are we?
In that case, let me hit that spot again:
Then:
I find it hilarious that someone who's been engaged 4 times by 22 is calling anyone a reject. Based on everything you wrote, you're either a giant liar, or a total psycho. I'm leaning towards the second one.
Either way, do you realize that by now I don't take anything you say seriously? [/QUOTE
lol chill man chill
B-Lemond
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oakraiderz2
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Youre gay. Stop internet macking.Originally posted by E_ze05
blueangle u seem to be ignoring me...whys that, i just love chinese..i mean tai..women, come on email me or something [email protected]......(now this is how we are to act in her eyes, well i beet i dont get an email guys, but um thanks for the advice gurl)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
o yea i forgot we dont like each otherOriginally posted by oakraiderz2
Youre gay. Stop internet macking.
The Antichrist_Star
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I really feel bad for that woman...
Honestly.
On the original note... a private forum is a bad idea and everyone knows it. Complaining about trolls and ****ty posters on Sosuave is like complaining about how television or radio is ruining society.
You don't like it... turn the **** off.
Funny how people have been here for ages (Paradox, MOM, myself, and countless others come to mind) yet they never complain about it.
AS
I'm not up to date with this thread due to not having the net for a week +Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
Wow...
I really feel bad for that woman...
Honestly.
On the original note... a private forum is a bad idea and everyone knows it. Complaining about trolls and ****ty posters on Sosuave is like complaining about how television or radio is ruining society.
You don't like it... turn the **** off.
Funny how people have been here for ages (Paradox, MOM, myself, and countless others come to mind) yet they never complain about it.
AS
and not wanting to read 7 pages of drivel..
BUT:
There are reasons, I, like the concept of a private board.
Pictures.
I am not comfortable having my pictures on display for everybody. But I would like to post pictures. + I leave details out for privacy reasons. It would be good to be completely open.
Otherwise, the bigger the board the better. As the chances of finding someone who knows what they are talking about greatly increases. although you have to sift through crap to find it.
MindOverMatter
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I support the forum staying public 100%. Yeah, the trolls get annoying, but I have to admit they don't last long, Allen & mods have kept this site pretty troll-free. If you guys want a small forum, Eternal, Wyldfire, and several other posters have their own small communities set up. If this forum was private, none of you (including me) would be here.Funny how people have been here for ages (Paradox, MOM, myself, and countless others come to mind) yet they never complain about it.
That would be an interesting idea, but I know the guys in charge really dislike the idea of adding more forums, and I don't blame them, some forums barely get used (Wingman anyone?). However, this would be a great idea. A forum that requires a sign photo (i.e. holding a piece of paper with your user name on it) to join would be a great addition, it would be a small troll free area for people to discuss game, and you could put a face to people's names. It worked when Kramer did it on Seinfeld heh.I am not comfortable having my pictures on display for everybody. But I would like to post pictures. + I leave details out for privacy reasons. It would be good to be completely open.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LOL. awesome reply. Everything I wanted to hear. AND a seinfeld reference to boot.Originally posted by MindOverMatter
It worked when Kramer did it on Seinfeld heh.
You're idea sounds alot better then mine, which would basically have been, club alpha version 2.
Actually being affiliated with sosuave.com would keep its activity high, and not lose quality posters.
Mods, Please take note of MoM's idea.