"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sosuave Comminity Cheating Facts | Survey
- Thread starter logicallefty
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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Don't feel bad. Mine technically would not have been shared either and thus I didn't even put it as one of the choices. Mine would have been:wishyo said:
"I was FOR SURE cheated on by a woman I married and thought was my wife but then I found out she was a bigamist and married to TWO other dudes in TWO other States so we had an annulment and thus were never lawfully married under Illinois law"
I choose the "While in a LTR I was FOR SURE cheated on" which was really accurate too. Sense we were not lawfully married I am not bound to ever call her my "ex wife". I hear through the grapevine that she still calls me her "ex husband" though. I always correct anyone who refers to her as my ex wife.
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My purpose to this survey is to :
- See how our SS community compares to media saying 50% and 60% of married women cheat. We are digging further though..LTR cheating counts too here.
- Have some good fun and discussion. I hope everyone responds to this. In fact I would love to hear from more guys confident they have never been cheated on and restore some faith in women for all of us.. Isn't that what we all want???? Will it happen? Likely not.. BUT, "logicallefty" is just as much "objectivelefty"..
let's hear it guys.. Please respond if you have not already..
zekko
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Tictac is completely right here. There's nothing wrong with the survey per se, but it won't reveal what percentage of women cheat. It will reveal what percentage of guys on the forum get cheated on. Most guys on here will have dated numerous women, and some may even have been married more than once. A guy might have dated 20 women and maybe one might have cheated on him.Tictac said:
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Cheated countless times from girls I was dating if it can be called cheating, I've been the early night guy while someone was the late one doing the fvcking while I had the making out at the most.
Had plenty of girls wasting my time while fvcking others, that happened and I know almost for sure.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Thank you for being gay..wishyo said:"I am gay and don't date women." lol
I always thank every gay man I meet. Why?
Cuz that leaves more free women for me.
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Posters that are in constant search of threads to fuel their confirmation bias. :yes:noobolgy said:
"most" is the key word here. And I'm not sure if I'd go that far.noobolgy said:
I agree. And it's a thread that could give the opportunity for the guys who haven't, or rarely, been cheated on to tell their side. Most of the time it's the guys that have been cheated on who are the ones speaking up, which isn't bad, but it's only one perspective.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.