You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When you close in the business world, you make a sale.whosthat said:and what is when you close
Lol, love it.squirrels said:A "PUA" is a guy who posts on Internet forums about not being able to get women.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bwahaha!squirrels said:An "AFC" is a guy who can't get women.
A "PUA" is a guy who posts on Internet forums about not being able to get women.
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wait_out said:
Internet guys studying pickup stuff. A fair number of these guys are engineers, computer/IT guys, etc. So technical terms, codes, and acronyms are what they are comfortable with. As an electrical engineer, I'm guilty as charged lol.whosthat said:whats a "cold" approach
It's approaching a female or group of females you don't know.
whats HB
Hot babe. How hot depends on the number after it. A chick who is an 8 out of 10 in looks is a HB8.
whats kino?
Touching. Ever touch a chick's arm when making a point? That's kino. Ever put your hand on her lower back? That's kino too.
oneitis?
Getting too hung up on one female.
who came up with all these unheard of lingos?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.