Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When you close in the business world, you make a sale.whosthat said:and what is when you close
Lol, love it.squirrels said:A "PUA" is a guy who posts on Internet forums about not being able to get women.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bwahaha!squirrels said:An "AFC" is a guy who can't get women.
A "PUA" is a guy who posts on Internet forums about not being able to get women.
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wait_out said:
Internet guys studying pickup stuff. A fair number of these guys are engineers, computer/IT guys, etc. So technical terms, codes, and acronyms are what they are comfortable with. As an electrical engineer, I'm guilty as charged lol.whosthat said:whats a "cold" approach
It's approaching a female or group of females you don't know.
whats HB
Hot babe. How hot depends on the number after it. A chick who is an 8 out of 10 in looks is a HB8.
whats kino?
Touching. Ever touch a chick's arm when making a point? That's kino. Ever put your hand on her lower back? That's kino too.
oneitis?
Getting too hung up on one female.
who came up with all these unheard of lingos?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.