"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey everyone. I reached my goal as you all know. Anyways, I played tennis for 4 hours the other day. It felt great. Then...I tried to get out of bed, and I couldn't. I thought I was paralyzed, but I was just really REALLY sore. Hell, my ass is sore and basically whenever I move, it hurts. Dunno wtf is up. Any advice on how to treat this ****? I'm laying off the workouts for a while though, cuz I read on this site that you should give your muscles time to REBUILD before breaking them down. thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lol... I can feel your pain. I just ran 3 miles this morning for the first time in almost a week, and I'm feeling it. As for your soreness, drink lots of water, and don't overexert yourself. When you feel as though you're able to keep up exercising, go ahead and do so. It's natural for you to be sore - what you've done when you worked out (tennis, to be specific) was to cut tiny tears into your muscles, which in a few days will have solidified once again, thus increasing your muscle mass. When you have a solid routine going, you'll do upper body 1 day, lower body the next - always allowing 48 hours for each to heal. This is, of course, a very brief and inadequete explanation - more can be found on about.com or elsewhere. Or perhaps by speaking to any personal trainer.
 

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I don't think that they'll mess your muscles up... but just continue working out and (as mentioned) stretching. Soreness is a natural feeling when you begin pushing yourself past your current limits. Get used to it. :rolleyes:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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