"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sooooooo, how do I get over this...

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OK so I finally got to the point where I get no emotions when approaching girls. But still something blocks me from approaching when I'm out with my friends and see an attractive girl... Those are the kind of friends that can't even think of approaching women (as 80% of people can't)...

How do I get over this block? I would especially appreciate an advice from someone with the same experience who got over it successfuly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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reyalp

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"She's just a woman"
 

El MonoLoco

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Be a show off to your friends....Showing them up by approaching a hottie will make you feel better about doing....makes you more confident.....Show um you got the balls that they should develop....then you can all wing together
 

Pakwah

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I'll play a game with my friend where we come up to a chick together and one of us asks if we can have a dance, phone number, etc....

We normally will ride 20-50 bucks on the first person who can get 10 rejections, the other one is there to keep track.

So the point is you want them to say no....win the cash...and any yeses' are just bonuses.

No pressure....look at it is wanting them to say no, its funny cuz sometimes when one wins, we will celebrate and the ladies have no idea what the ---- just happened.

just make sure you guys keep it looking as straight as possible, you dont what no one thinking your gay when a girl turns you down.....
 

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Treat em as wingmen not friends. (Wingmen are friends)

I have the same problem. I know that approaching with your friends there is hard because if you get rejected they will laugh right? Well at least you had the balls to try....More than them.

What i do is I will point out a girl. Comment on how fit she is then bet a mate.....friendly or money on who can pull her. Me or him. No one is a null bet. I will be the first in there. If there is compertition you will want to succeed more. Its natural. I did this a few weeks back. Me and my wing went for the same girl knowing it was fair game who got her. I pulled out my game skills on her. By the end of the night i was back at her place shagging...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gain confidence!!! Know who you are and you can approach woman.
 
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half of the people who answered didn't seem to read my post carefully, but anyways, thanks for the input ;)
 
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